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writes:Bf used to spoil me at the start of the relationship -used to give me gifts etc - then I have now fallen pregnant - am half way through - its been on and off for the whole 20 wks so far, however he started to withdraw emotionally etc. I asked him to go half in terms of cost of child birth (600 quid). He did not give me half the money though he said he would....my phone broke...I have a temp phone but can only make calls on it - can not receive txts. The bf usually likes to txt. He knows my phone is wrecked yet splurged on a 300 quid phone for himself knowing how you are struggling with your current phone..We are now not together again. I am at a loss to understand why he is being SO selfish while I am pregnant? yet when I was not pregnant he was v generous. What is the deal with that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much - what a nice reply...I think you are spot on...
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reader, LethalInjection-x  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 The way I see it, the pregnancy has scared him, leading to dramatic change in behaviour. It could simply be the idea of bringing a baby into the world has frightened him, as obviously it's a huge thing. Or it could be that he's not ready to be a father, and is now panicking. It's impossible to know which it is without asking him really.
On the phone incident though, he could have simply not thought about it, or it could be him trying to keep hold of being independant and not having anyone depending on him (i.e, a child) so maybe this is a last minute purchase before a lot of his money goes towards a child?
I really think you two need to have a proper talk about this though. In your current state, stress is something you really don't need, so it's vital that you find a situation you're comfortable with. This isn't going to be possible without the imput of the baby's father.
Congratulations on the pregnancy though, I wish you luck with everything and hope it all goes smoothly. x
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