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writes:i love my bf. we have been together 1 year and 8 months jst about. i love him to death and i cant see my life without him.we had been goin out for 3 days and i broke up with him because my parents made me i never wanted to but they couldnt expect the fact he was muslim and we wher christians. i cryed so much and we got back together behind my parents back.. everytime they found out we where in a relationship they would tell me stupid things to dump him in the end his parents where calling mine and mine where calling his. just as things seemed to be going great for him and i without my parents being aware.. they kicked me out of home.. i didnt no what to do i was hurt and scared and a million things in one esp being the only girl from a european backgroud, i never though they would do this to me. i cryed for so long and i guess my bf never understood how it hurt me and then his family started and wanted me to convert and change what i believe in so that way their son would be a fail to the faimly.. didnt no what to do everything happened at once.. i lived out of home for 4/5 months.. he didnt want to move out and didnt want me to live alone.. we kept fighting and then i moved back home.. we broke up but still were seeing eah other 2 months later we found out i was pregant and i said i wanted to marry him and have the child.. i wanted for his answer but he wantd me to convert and have the child.. in the end we had an aboration and we have had a rocky relationship..soon after it was blame time i blamed him and he blamed me we broke up but still got back together i miss him now because he dumped me cause he cant trust me.. he feels that if we ever get married ill leave him .. but i would never i have no idea what to do ad i miss him so much its been three weeks since he dumped me and we have seen each other only 3 times. its like where still together though its not offical.. i hate the feeling im losing him its like the more i say i miss him the more he wants space cause he doesnt wanna get hurt please help i have no idea what to do.. he tells me he misses me and loves me but when i say it. he freaks out
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reader, Fineguy277  +, writes (1 November 2010):
It is clear that there are religious and cultural differences between you guys. You love each other. However, he is strongly religious and wants you to convert to show your love. You are unable to convert for that reason. His love for you is dependent on your religious conversion. By your own admission, the marriage will not last. If you were meant to be together, he would have married you and had the child. You are going on a merry go round and wasting your youth. My advice will be for you to find someone who is compatible with you religiously and culturally to marry and settle down. You can try a dance class, learn a new language or another hobby to meet people. The story sounds like a merry go round headed for heartbreak and disaster. it hurts now, but it's better to bear it now and enjoy the rest of your life with someone who loves you the way you are.
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