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writes:Sometimes, my boyfriend doesn't come when we have sex and I take this really personally. I think he doesn't enjoy it as much with me as with other women. He says I'm being crazy but I feel bad about it. How can we sort this?ps we have to use condoms as he has an STD and he says they make him feel less.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 I am in your boyfriends position (minus the STD). My girlfriend sometimes has the same doubts as you. I can only tell you that there can be many reasons for it that have nothing to do with you at all... such as the condom, but also stress and anxiety, tiredness, feeling unable to let go, and so on. It almost certainly has nothing to do with you.
The BBC website has an article about it that is well worth reading:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_difficultyejaculating.shtml
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reader, spiffjackson  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Im a very sexually driven guy sometimes. I know exactly what he is going through with the condom thing. Yes, they do cover up some of the sensation, but that shouldn't keep him from being able to cum. You know what works for me? It's not so much how it feels to be inside of my girlfriend. What really pushes me over the edge are the subtle noises she makes. Her moans, ooohs, aaahs, and breaths get me so excited during sex that I have to find myself holding back just to make the sex last longer. Condom, or no condom - her voice is far more arousing to me than her p*ssy. So, try just being a little more verbal. Make soft sounding noises. Use your hands more. Slide your hands on his back or the back of his head a lot. Those types of things will getting him to explode.
I hope that helps.
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