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female
age
30-35,
*aelynn17
writes:hey, im a 17 year old female and have been seeing an 18 year old guy. hes extremely physically attractive and we get along quite well, except for a few issues:#1: he can get very very jealous and wants to know where i am at all times. #2: he wants to check my phone and gets very upset if other guys text me#3: he is very sexual. he pushes me to do sexual things and has pressured me into doing so, even when i was saying stop and pushing him away he did not take me seriously and got very angry.#4: the other night he got upset bc a guy texted me and stormed out of my house to his car. i followed him and we were arguing, he grabbed my wrist and jerked me forward. i was shocked but then he smiled and kissed me as if nothing happened... #5: he says im "beautiful but insecure" which im not sure is an insult or a compliment..#6: my clothes are always an issue to him. i talked about wanting to get w fall dresses for the school year and it caused an arguement when he said "i dont allow my girl to wear short sh*t to school"please give me some advice and insight on why he has acted this way and if i should leave him or not? i do like him a lot, these things have just been bothering me. thank you
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 Agree with the others... leave
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): You should leave him and forget him. he's not treating you with any respect at all and you can definitely find someone much better. It shouldn't be about how physically attractive he is, that should mean nothing if he's treating you badly.If your not insecure now, you will be if you stay with him, the previous aunt is right, he is controlling and abusive and generally these things only get worse.Sometimes in a relationship, its hard to see the reality of the situation with someone like that because your so involved, but once you're out of that relationship, you'll look back one day and see clearly how bad he is.You're too young to be stuck with this controlling guy, find someone who treats you well, respects your wishes and makes you feel good about yourself. Life is beginning to open up and become quite exciting! Don't bog yourself down with this control freak!Above all.. have fun with your friends and find a guy who you can have fun with too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): Your boyfriend is both controlling and abusive. He is acting this way because he is selfish and mean. You need to leave him, and he is giving you absolutely no reason to like him. Please dump this guy before something even worse happens.
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