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writes:this guy i liked kept askin me out in the end i gave in we went out. a lot of stuff happened and we finished he wouldnt get over it, he kept sayin he still loved me and i did rethink about gettin back with him. i told my best mate all this she listened and gave me advice the next day i was ready to say yeah so i walk him ready to talk to him and my best mates going out with him. i was really upset and gutted as she knew my plans she simply said to me you had somthing good and you let it go. you just messed with him. i was completely heart broken by both of them the only thing is i still am i mean maybe i was messin to start wif but ive realised i love the guy. hes the one how can i get over him im soo annoyed epressed and its all my fault plz help if you can thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, towapa +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Not really your best mate, is she? I think you should talk to her and ask her why she did what she did. It may of been to teach you a lesson or just because she's a selish person and wanted him all a long. Either, you need to find out why she did it to you and to know whether she really is your friend. Don't let people like her push you about, find new friends. As for the boyfriend thing... Forget about it. I'm not being a bitch or anything, but the chances with the relationship lasting long is pretty low, considering you're still young and everything. You also seem pretty confused about having a boyfriend, so why not go out with friends to the cinema or bowling (or drinking at the park in the dark..) before you look for a new boyfriend. I know people say that having a boyfriend when you're a teenager is all about teenage experience, ut I don't think it is at all! I believe it's about enjoying it to the fullest (Like i'm doing!). So, please, don't worry about getting back with a lad, just have fun and maybe study for your GCSEs if you're doing them to the moment.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I am not being mean, but hindsight is 20/20. Unfortunately sometimes when we change our minds about someone, they have not Waited. You really need to think about why you changed your mind. Was it because your friend spoke kindly about him or because you had really had a shattering break through of sudden love? Because She betrayed you. They could not have been going out in one day.....she must have been going out with him on the sly and reporting back to him all you said for her own purposes. He had no idea that you were ever going to do anything but play him and so when she tossed him a lifeline....he grabbed it.
Now it is human nature for a jilted love to want to show you what it feels like to be jilted. "Ha Ha I knew you'd be back" They gave you a bit of your own medicine....
If I were in your shoes, I would take it like a big girl and be gracious. (I would also keep it in mind that my best friend is no longer her.) I would wish them well and pretend like the conversation that you were taking him back never happened. Then be patient and soon your best buddy will be coming to you with her problems....and when they fall apart.....YOU can be the one to toss the poor guy a life line. If you want to bother.....because by then....You may have found a new love and be way to happy to worry about what they have to say. If you really love him.....you won't mind the wait....and if your just jealous because She has him now....getting him back just isn't worth the bother.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
Have you thought that hes only going out with her to make you jealous. Tell him you were about to ask him back out, and your sorry if he ever felt like you were messing him around. You just wanted to be sorted out so you could put more into the relationship when you were ack together.
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