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My best friend thinks I stole her boyfriend, and now she's hanging out with my ex! Help!

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Question - (5 February 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, *iss_mystery writes:

I'm currently single and have been, basically, since like October. Well my ex and my best friend started hanging out. To where they were together every weekend...her all up in his truck. So I asked them what was going on, and they claim they're "just friends". So I didn't worry about it..and then a mutual friend of mine and my ex was texting me and said that my ex was at my best friend's house..it was like 12:10 am! So I was pissed beyond belief! Like really? What kinda best friend does that!?

So I start ignoring both of them..but after a while, I start talking to my friend again cause she's having problems with her new boy at the time. Well I was being nice and comforting her...I got her boyfriend's number, and was all, "you need to quit being such a dick! If you're mean to her one more time, I'll kick you ass! I'm not even kidding." So I fixed everything between them, and they're good.

Well she starts getting extremely mad and jealous because her boyfriend keeps texting me. We're friends..nothing more. She thinks that I'm going to steal him from her, so she like goes off on me, and starts talking bad about me to girls she HATES at school. I didn't understand what I did at all. When he texted me, it was always about her! But she didn't believe me.. so he breaks up with her because he thinks she's immature and jealous.

Well she tells everyone I stole him from her. What the hell? I had nothing to do with the break up at all. I was the one who stopped them from breaking up! Why does she have to be like this?

So what do I do? It's been like a month or two since they broke up and me and her ex are still friends. But we've never hung out..her and my ex still do. Every damn day! They're always hanging out in the walmart parking lot..and on the weekends, they hang out too!

What in the world do I do? I'm still in love with this guy..and I think I'm possibly pregnant by him? Me and my ex haven't talked much really since we broke up. He says we're still friends, and I mean I guess you could say that we are, but it's just not the same! Before we started dating, we were best friends! And I just really feel betrayed by my best friend..who doesn't speak to me at all anymore. Help please:(

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A female reader, miss_mystery United States +, writes (8 February 2011):

miss_mystery is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Yes, I am jealous. But only because she said age would ever do that to me..and now that's all she does. It hurts me. And as many oppurtunities I've had to get back at her I would never do that. That's low and mean. But I just give up on her. And him. And everything..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011):

You may feel betrayed but you are not admitting that you are jealous.

If you broke up with this guy, he has a right to talk to whoever he pleases.

She has a right to speak to him too.

Is it insensitive of her considering her relationship to you?

Perhaps.

But,you have to suck it up and deal...are you literally going to be overseeing any relationship your ex has now?

Given all the drama she seems to bring and give that she is obviously NOT being a friend much less as "best friend", I would distance myself from her. Find some new friends.

I would also stop trying to manage other people's relationships. Despite what you may believe, you can't "fix" anyone's relationship. You are upset with all the drama she caused, but you have made yourself a part of it.

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