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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently, I've been getting jealous of my best friend. Shes gorgeous and most people look at her. It makes me feel insecure about myself, and it makes me feel ugly.I can't talk to her about it because it just sounds stupid...How can I stop being jealous?
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reader, Carina  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 This seems difficult, I know. It sounds as though you need to boost your self-esteem. Remember that everyone has good and bad things about them. Looks certainly aren't everything. Often girls who are gorgeous looking don't build up a great personality because they never need to. It's also absolutely true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. People have different ideas of what they find attractive and to some of them you will be far more their 'type'. The worst thing you can do is allow this to affect the way you feel about yourself. Look around at everyone else. We're all different, we all have something special about us, we all have our failings. Be happy to be you. Focus on all the great things about yourself. Smile a lot and be a nice person. In the end those things count for far more than just looks. You know, if you spoke to some of the women who are considered the most beautiful in the world they'll all tell you that they don't like things about the way they look. Enjoy your individuality and enjoy your friend for her friendship. That's something to be treasured. I really hope that helps.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 You will stop feeling jealous when someone makes you feel special. I think your problem is that you feel underappreciated next to your friend right now. Sound about right? The pretty girl is not necessarily the one who makes the better girlfriend. Pretty people who know theyre pretty are often self obsessed and try to control their partners because they think they can't do better. Girls like yourself who understand that other things are more important are bound to go much further and be happier. Remember, looks only last a few years. Being a good person and a loyal friend last forever.
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