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writes: Hey guys. I really like my boyfriend and I care about him. And there's my best friend (aka also a relative of mine), I talk to her about everything. We are practically like sisters. But one problem is that she likes my boyfriend. She is always flirting with him, and I'm just standing there looking at them, because I don't know what to do. I can't stand it. I am really hurt. So what should I do? I don't wanna hurt my boyfriend nor my best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): You need to be there for your friend and your boyfriend at the same time. I have the same problem. Just split them up. Do activities that are not in front of your friend with your boyfriend. Go out to dinner or the movies. Tell your friend, nicely, that this is not accepltable and it is hurting you. It needs to stop and it is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I would talk to her considering your close to each other maybe it would be better asking her about it then see what will go from there, sorry not very good advice really my best friend is all flirty with my boyfriend too, i hate it and feel left out and jelous but i dont do anything about it, you can. Good luck
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reader, queenette  +, writes (30 March 2008):
i think u just ve to let her know how u feel about the drama always taking place between her and ur boyfriend.if u keep bottling this up,pretending that you are comfortable with it,she would just go on and on with and cause you some depression.To think of it,she may not even be aware of the fact that you dislike her doing that.fortune you know favours the bold
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): i think u just ve to let her know how u feel about the drama always taking place between her and ur boyfriend.if u keep bottling this up,pretending that you are comfortable with it,she would just go on and on with and cause you some depression.To think of it,she may not even be aware of the fact that you dislike her doing that.fortune you know favours the bold
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): yeah i know how you feel! you guys should talk first to you Bf and ask him what he has to say about all of this. then a calm confrontaon woked for me!!! best of luck to you both
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reader, supersarah89  +, writes (24 November 2007):
hey hold in there girl...I feel the same way i have a cute boyfriend and i love him so much and my best friend knows that but she still flirts with him and it really hurts but i dont know what to do because i dont want to say anything to him or my best friend, because i dont want to loose either of them but i do want them to stop.....even if im sitting next to him she willl come over and push us away from eachother and sit next to him!!!i need help too!!!!! I think we should stick it out for a while but if she keeps doing it i willl say something but in a nice way and if she still does i am oing to telll her STOP ..... and i hope it works...I wish you goood luck~Sarah S.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I am going thru the same thing with my boyfriend... we share the same bestfriend and she like a sister to me, and she has known my boyfriend longer than me.. but when i noticed the flirting and what not i told him that it made me uncomfortable to watch them flirt.. and listen to her talk about him all the time.. and he did distance himself from her but she continued to try and get close to him, and i am a very quiet person so i never said anything after that... then she like tried to make a move on him and i straight up told her to back off.. and i explained that it had been bothering me... and she realized and stopped...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): well... i totally think you should let him know you feel 'comfortable' about him being around other people, so let him know he has his own space, and then he'll feel comfortable around you...
... and try going out with him to places or events that only you two... or at least he has interests in, but that your friend does not, so it seems like your relationship with him is stronger, sharing more interests, and with him realising that you share more links than he does with your other friend ^^
xx
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (28 October 2006):
 hiya i think you should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel about this situation i think that your friend will understand if you tell her, also i think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel about him flirting with your friend but is she is a true friend then she will stop when you request it if she carries on she is doing it to hurt you so ditch her.
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reader, Lemonpixie +, writes (28 October 2006):
 Some best friend. Girly you need to stop them in their tracks... has she done this with multiple boys, or is the first boy youve dated? Because it will continue... she may not even like him really she just wants to 'one up' you. It's common with best friends sometimes they get competitive. Approach her and say you feel really uncomfortable with the situation. Also tell him its not acceptable that he is letting her flirt with him... tell him to make it clear to her he's with you and wants you...
If they continue I suggest finding better people to surround yourself with you deserve that much at least
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (28 October 2006):
 you are speaking as though your in the wrong and you are not if any ones in the wrong it is your freind for 1 fliritng and 2 not being happy for you. do not break up with your boyfreind as he wants to be with you and you want to be with him so there for be with each other. also try explining to your freind that you really care about him and that she must stop with the flirting as it is very nice. also explain to your boyfreind that she keeps flirting and you would appriciate it if he could try to avoid the flirting bit with her. how can you hurt your best freind by being with some one you really like?! its not possibel and the only way your hurt your boyfreind is by breaking up with him so do not do that also thats what she wants you to do so she can take him off you then how are you going to feel hanging around with your best freind when she is kissing your ex in front of you very uncomftorbel i bet and all because you let it happen so there for to avoid that simply stay with your feller.
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reader, DEBS83 +, writes (28 October 2006):
 you need to talk to ure friend tell her that her flirting with him isnt nice for you to see you and tht u fleel hurt by this and you want her to stop also talk to ure boyfriend good luck
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