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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months, and we have a really good relationship, up untill a week ago. See my ex boyfriend pasted away, 16 months ago. And it has taken sometime to get over him, I have a tattoo for him, on my back. And I do still miss him. But my boyfriend now only in the last week has been fighting with me about him. About how he cheated on me, and how he took his own life. But he got so mad last night him, that he was pushing me, and getting right up in my face, yelling at me, grabing my hands. See none of this is like him, I don't know what got into him, he keeps saying "why don't you go back to your boyfriend, why don't you sleep with him?" I'm really hurt that he is saying these things I do love and care for him but I miss my ex too.. I don't know what to do .. I don't want to leave him, I want to work it out but don't know. Thanks for reading hope you can help me out :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your help! Sorry I didn't say thanks right away. Thanks for your help.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 It's difficult to handle having to compete with a ghost. He'll probably come to his senses over a period of time. Keep your grieving private and wait it out.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Another thought. Your bf who passed away. You didn't leave that relationship because of some fight or flaw. He likely feels jealous because that relationship didn't end in a traditional way. It is easier to deal with feelings about a previous lover because they are an ex for a reason. Something they or you did drove your relationship apart. In a situation like this, you didn't choose to end the relationship. Because of that, he may be feeling like you're still with him. Regardless, I still stand by what I said in my other post. After some more thought, I just had this to add. Good luck.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 July 2010):
He's having a jealous fit, and you just need to back away. There is nothing you can do about your feeling other than be honest about them. If he can't handle it, he isn't right for you. I say, tell him that you don't feel it is fair the way he's been treating you. You like being with him, and don't want to lose him, but you won't be abused this way. If he wants to be with you, then he needs to accept you. His actions aren't showing acceptance.
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