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writes:hey everyone and merry xmas hopeit wasa good one.. unfortunatly i spent most of mine crying.. i recently wrote my ex boyfriend a letter (as he is in the army) tellin him i love him and would love to try again (3rd time round.) i first met him nearly 2 year ago and we were together for a mere 3 weeks, we then got back last january about 9 month later.. this time wewere together for 5 month and he called it off. thing is he was my first sexual partner and im not sure if this has anything to do with it but i just cant move on. so anyways it reply to my letter he said he would think bout it and needed to get his head around it. Last week we were talkin and he said we should "take it slow, have some 'fun' and build it up so we do it properly and dont jump in at the deep end."I think thiswas fair enough and i spent 2 nights as his house, thing is only 2 days later (xmas eve) i was on msn talkin to him and he said.. "i'm not rubbing it in but i met someone else last night, and i think were guna take things further.. but we still mates yer?" to be honest i'm devastated.. is there anything i can do to persuade him or do u think he may have made her up to get a reaction. i just don't no how he can go from sayin one thing to sayingthat in 48 hours.. any advice would be appreciated. thanks.
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reader, bazookabob +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Sorry to say but it ain't gonna work with this guy- its fallen apart twice already anyway- 3 times if you count the 48 hours this time around. I reckon he only said he'd like to get back with you this time because he didn't have any other girls on the go. Now he has, he's fobbed you off again. I know it can be tough when you think you're in love with someone, but from what you've told us, it hardly sounds like a match made in heaven, and once you get him out of your head, you'll find someone else much better suited to you. Good luck...
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 You sound like you are causing yourself pain and suffering that you dont need by needlessly contacting him. He's your first mate, you have to find someone else, its hard I know, but you can do it.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (26 December 2007):
 Hey Natalie,
Yeah, honey ... just let him go.
It's one thing when a relationship starts off swimmingly and seems made in heaven and then, six months into it, the glow starts to wear off and reality sets in. From what you've told us, you never had a *real* relationship.
You're broken hearted, true, but I do think he was trying to break it off the best way he knew how. Another guy may have been more gentle but I get the impression from your post, that you you would read 'gentle' as 'hope for the future'.
Let him go. You need to go out with a number of people (don't read that to mean have sex with a number of people) to learn the kinds of lessons we all need, to be a good life-long partner.
Let him go. Heal. Get to know yourself so that you know what you need and you won't fall head over heels for a person that's really not your type.
Peace to you.
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