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writes:Its my 18th Birthday in a few days and nothing has been planned. I have had a serious fall out with most of my friends as i feel its time to change everything and they weren't acting like true frinds. But my family are just as bad. Its my 18th and call me what you will but they expect me to spend it at home doing nothing or watching t.v. They all say that I either have an 18th bash or a 21st bash, Not both. I dont want both but they have basically chose for me as my siblings all had 21st birthday bashes. I cant ask my friends round/out for a drink as we are no longer speaking, My boyfriend wont be here and its extreamly boring where i live. AAARRRGGGHHH!What do i do????????? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): I had that problem with freinds, luckily my family are great and my sister taking me out clubbing and I'm seeing a play in london. Just ask your parents to take you somewhere, don't feel too bad about not drinking and such as you can do all that when you make new mates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I had the same problem on my 16th birthday, no one cared, not even my family. I am now 50 and it still affects me. I would go on holiday if I were you. 18=30s, get a loan out if you have to, dont let it pass you by.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Do you have your mom or dad? Ask them to take you to dinner and someplace fun for your birthday. I just went out with my daughter on her 18th and she will never forget it, I made her older brother come too, he drove because we were wasted. We had a really fun time.
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reader, ogga +, writes (23 August 2007):
maybe they are planning a surprise party
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I think you should go out alone. You're 18 now... why are you still hanging around with parents who treat you like a 10 year old. Now... I sound extremely uneducated, but I have most fun when I'm going places alone. You want to have fun... allowing these parents of yours to tell you that sitting around the house all day is healthy, especially on a day that is supposed to be celebrated, is just wrong. I had the same trouble with my parents, but actually, if you just step out as an individual and say "I only need me", your parents will have more respect for you. My parents surpressed me, didn't approve of me going anywhere or doing anything... they said it was because they loved me. I had friends that did everything my parents wouldn't let me do. They're all in university right now and their parents are helping them with their tuition. I'm in university right now and my parents don't help me with shit... but they're fast to take credit when I pull in good grades. Take it from me, because I know exactly what you're feeling, you should love your parents, but learn to love yourself too. And as for your friends, they sound extremely inmature if they've all ganged up on you and won't talk to you any more. Tell them that you've outgrown "Kleeks" (How ever you spell that).
Have your own party... eat your own cake. Buy yourself a really nice present, take a small trip if you can afford it... anyway, my parents were horrible until I flew half way across the country for my own recreation, then they pretty much shut up about what I "can" and "cannot" do.
Tah for now!
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