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writes:Please help this scenario isnt just wierd but im so conserned. well i have a cousin who is 12 years old ill call her Kim (not her real name.) My auntie got with her dad about 3 years ago and they are now married and she had a son with him who is now almost 2 ill call him Jim(not his real name). Kim had always been a handful she finds it very hard to make friends and understand simply things she also constantly lies and makes up stupid little storys, and disagrees with everything you say. from the day i meet her i quickly worked out that she ovbiously had some mental problems but i was never expecting this ! Her dad had also had alot of trouble with her to, and he had noticed the lieing and strange behaviour aparently it had been going on since she was six. but he finally desided to seek professinal help when she got excluded from school for making up a rumour that a girl had cancer and she didnt even tho why she done it. it turns out that when Kim was about 3 her mum badly neglected her and wouldnt feed her which is the cause to most of her problems. The therapist siad she might be autistic and they are currently testing her but i dont think she was autistic things just dont add up. Things had been going okay with Kim she had been happy about her baby brother Jim and had calmed down considerbly. but then she had a very bad turn, my mum and grandma look after her on weekends while her dad and my auntie are at work they also look after jim. Lately things have been getting really bad. The lieing and disagreeing started first but my mum and grandma chhoose to ignore it. then she started back chatting and acting suspiscious.my mum and grandma kept walkiing in the house and smelling candles and burning, my mum had a house fire and the smell of smoke can disturb her alot and Kim knows that. Then one day my mum went outside to get the washing and when she came back in she found Kim lighting candles on the stove. She isnt aloud to play with fire she knows it she got told off. then a few days later my mum came in and the whole house stunk of gas ! it was Kim she had put the stove on delibertly ! Kim denied it but it was her because she was the only one who had gone into the kitchen. My mum broke down in tears and was convince that Kim was playing head games with her. Then yeterday i had to look after her, she had been really argumentive and annoying so i called my auntie to tell her what a pain she had been. Jim was asleep in the front room and i was in the kitchen Kim had disapeared somewhere. i was ringing her mum and just about to tell her when i found something on the table, it was a letter and it siad on the front WATCH OUT ! and there was a picture of an eye underneath it really scared me ! i then looked and i swear i saw her watching me on the stairs i felt really insecure. i told my aunt and Jim started screaming, i went right to him and he was out of his chair and had cut his hand somehow !. i was convinced she had done it and i think she is playing some sort of mind games with us all and i beleive her problems are alot worse than autisim. also when ever she comes into the room Jim will start crying and screaming What if shes hurting him ? he keeps getting brusies everywhere aswell ? im terriofied of her shes 12 im 14. she will do anything for attention and now shes getting dangerous ! my mum and grandma are having a big talk with my aunt and uncle tomorow. but what if she like keeps on hurting Jim ? what if she puts the gas on and blows the house up ? please someone help i feel like im in a horror movie and im really scared for the safety of my family shes mainuplating everyone ! and her auntie and uncle wont listen to me ! what is they wont listen to my mum and grandma please help can someone tell me why she is doing this ? or what to doo ? Please ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. but my mum and grandma do beleive me and think my theroy is correct its my uncle and aunt who dont. They think just because im 14 i dont know whats going on and the dont realise how interlectual i am which really irrates me. I cant speak to anyone at school because im home tuttored. And as for the child line number thanks but i just couldnt bear to do it ! My aunt and uncle no she has problems but they really dont know the extent of her problems as they are always at work when she plays up badly like this. I also found out today that aparently she is going to be discharged from the therapist she sees !! Hopefully after my grandma explains the extent of the trouble she is causeing they might see how dangerous she is. Personally i think she needs to be put somewhere where she under provision 247. Its honestly now like my mum and grandma have to spend more time watching her than they do watching my 2 year old cousin its really rediculous. !! Thanks for all your help XxX
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 April 2011):
 Since your Aunt, Mum and grandmother aren't doing anything I would ask your school counselor what you can do.
She sounds psychopathic. She needs help. Serious help and no she doesn't sound autistic to me, but there are many variations of autism. It sounds more like an excuse for her sick behavior.
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reader, sly897 +, writes (14 April 2011):
 I understand your feelings and there is only one thing to do. You need to call Child Protective Services 800-242-3338 toll free. This is a California one but they can direct you to the right place. I know how hard it is because I took my own son to jail when he was 14 for molesting a neighbor child. It may hurt and some people may get mad at you. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. I realize you are still quite young yourself but just remember if you really believe this is happening as a loved one you need to protect him.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (14 April 2011):
This is a situation that the adults involved need to be taking responsibility for, and it sounds like they are not taking enough responsibility and action. You should not have to be in the situation you are in, in an environment where you are constantly in fear, and in fear for others' safety. It is not fair on you, and I am sorry that the adults involved have let you down in this way. Please realise that adults don't always get things right, but you can help them to see how serious things are for you, by expressing your point of view. Expressing your point of view is not always easy, sometimes adults don't listen to children as much as they should, and don't always appreciate how intelligent and perceptive kids can be. Sometimes, adults don't want to face the reality of the problems that they have to take responsibility for, so when you speak to your mom or other adults about it, they might not give you enough credit for what you are saying. One way that you can express yourself and be taken seriously, more seriously than you might have been in the past when you did try to speak to them, would be to show them this post. This post very clearly expresses all of your thoughts and feelings on the issue, and lets them know how much the situation is affecting you. Another way would be to continue to try to have conversations about it, you might catch your mom at a time when she is better able to focus on what you are saying and take it to heart. If you like, you could write your mom a letter, have you ever tried something like that? Writing a letter or an online post like this is good because the person will sit down and give the letter or post their full attention, which doesn't always happen during conversations. There might be other ways too, that you can use to express yourself. You can also speak to someone at school about it to get an outsiders opinion.At the very least, if you fear for your own safety, you should not have to supervise your cousin, and she should always be under adult supervision given the circumstances. Good luck.
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