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writes:I'm 23 years and my ex broke up with me 2mths ago. Last week I pretty much cried and begged for him to come back. I lost all self dignity. he kicked me out and told me he'd never speak to me again. The next day, he texts me. saying that he'd give me another chance. today I told him I didn't want it b/c he was only giving me another chance out of sympathy. he didn't really care any at all that I didn't want the second chance. I asked if we could be friends b/c we were together for a year and id really like to stay in contact, but he didn't reply. Now what? he doesn't care that I don't want another chance, how can I move on? What's the easiest way? I wanted to put myself first for once b/c I know being with him while he's in misery is only going to hurt me. so I had to let it go. But, now what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2015): HiThis is horrible I know. I've been there, as have most people. You know you're doing the right thing by accepting it and moving on. Concentrate on the fact that this relationship with this man was not going to make you happy and do exactly as you say...keep being strong. This is going to test you, find out how strong you are. A great life lesson is learning how to cope with adversity. This is it, right now. Don't, not for one second, consider trying to get him back. You've found out that he actually doesn't care about you. As you say, put yourself first and think about what you love in this world, what things make you happy. Get back in touch with you and if you can, stay there throughout your life. Can you look to your friends for support? To be with you and take your mind off him?This feeling won't last, remind yourself of that. My first heartbreak was a month of absolute hell and then three months in total before I had forgotten all about him. Your ex seems so important now, but if you can remember that in a relatively short amount of time you'll hardly remember his name.Were there any times you saw him be embarrassed by something? Was there anything he did which was embarrassing? It can help to imagine them or remember them, in situations that makes it easier for you to knock them off that pedestal. Quite effective too!Good luck x
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