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Mother from hell, please help!

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Question - (12 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 July 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hey everyone, hope you can help me sort this out.

iv been dating a guy for a couple weeks now, and were getting on so well, i really like him.

The one major issue thats come up now is my mother.

shes such a lovely woman, but shes also too interfereing.

she interefered with my ex and things didnt work out , not because of her, but she did play her part.

now iv got this great guy who likes me for me, and she then found him online, through my profile, and started sending him messages, nothing awkward, just trying to get to know him.

I think its weird because i barely know him, and didnt want her involved until were a item , its freaky to be fair.

he told me and said it has put him off but if she stops it we can carry on as normal but i dont think she has. i really wanted to introduce her eventually as the cool caring lovely woman she is, not the interfereing cow shes now made herself look. iv asked her to stop like 3 times now. and i tried to tell him im sorry and how embarrased i was, he knows im genuine about that, and said i cant pick my parents. but the lack of a good friendship with my folks and my ex put strain on our relationship and i really dont want that with this one. its crazy were not even concrete yet and shes already on the ball. how can i assure him and keep things good with him because although he says hes still interested , i cant help notice hes gone off it a bit. and he did admit it was a put off. im just lost at what to do. please help.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (12 July 2010):

DrPsych agony auntAs a grown woman you have got to learn to limit the information you give to your mother if she is behaving irresponsibly. She probably just wants to check him out and make sure he is ok, but I understand why you would feel awkward. She only found out who he was because you told her - I never told my mother about any of my boyfriends in the past to avoid the 20-questions thing. As for your boyfriend, if he likes you then he will tolerate the intrusion from your mother if you have set that out in the right context (i.e. her being interfering etc). Just tell him to ignore her and tell her you have told him to ignore her too. If he keeps bringing it up then perhaps he is not the boyfriend for you in the long term. After all, problems of all sorts emerge along the way and if he is that unhappy that your mother contacted him then it suggests he maybe touchy about other subjects too. But whatever happens in the relationship, remember your mother is only as powerful as you let her be...if you don't trust her, don't tell her personal stuff...it worked for me!

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A male reader, 11muds11 Canada +, writes (12 July 2010):

I think it's time to bring in another family member like an aunt, or someone who deals well with your mother. Tell them and that it's unacceptable to you. Ask them for advice. They might be able to talk some sence to her or help you with a game plan. Good luck.

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