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writes:I am confused about this guy I just met. He is 21 and I am 33, secretly gay. We started hanging out and he is sending strange signals. He wants me to go to the doctor with him (v.often now), wants to know my favorite food, picks lint on my clothes, compliments/notices what I wear, wants to read my palm, wants me to touch his palms to show his palms are sweaty (and says mine r rougher),tells me he doesn't have "anyone" as his friend, acts kind of nervous, waves cheekily at me in a crowd, laughs loud at my jokes(always).. (also he had a friend his age and I thought they were a couple, but now he talks negatively about him). But then the next day when I try to talk to him he sometimes seem very quiet.I am having feelings for him now, but don't want to mess the friendship. Also worried about the age gap thing.. Is this normal for his age? Am I misreading the signals? What am I to do?? Is he interested?? I don't know how to respond... emotional roller-coaster right now.... Reply to this Question
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 hmm the signals he sends are indeed mixed. i think he might like you though. maybe you should casualy bring up the fact that you are gay, without letting him know you like him. then see how he reacts. if he gets uncomfortable with you or have any other negative response to the fact that you are gay, just tell him to quit being a baby (you are older so you can pull that line :P) and quit making it a big deal, you know make it seem like you just told him that because you value his friendship and trust him. so you won't lose the friendship even if he is straight. on the other hand, if he is even slightly interested in you, if you tell him you are gay, he might start thinking about how it could be if you and he were together, and at least want to experiment ;P
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): just ask him outright
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): To me it seems he just wants you to be his best friend . But maybe if you give him some signal , move on a bit and see his reaction :)
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