A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I have always been confused as to whether girls are being kind or loving. I meet a lot of girls throughout work, leisure time and other parts of my life. I tend to enjoy talking to them as I would talk to guys. Now and again, I may feel attracted to some girl nad always find it hard to work out if she is being caring, kind, interested or whatever. in the past, I admit I have taken someone's kindness for love and have made mistakes by wanting to date a girl. Now, when I meet someone i like as more than a friend, I wonder if there are any signs, clues, ideas that she may be flirting/interested instead of simply being kind. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?? Taking chances is not for me as embarrassment or wrong timing can upset lots of things. Just to backtrack, I'm not looking at every girl as a poential, I enjoy talking and listening to both men and women but now and again meet a girl that I like in a dating way. All help appreciated please. Thanks, xxx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (6 November 2008):
 There is no real way of knowing,s ometimes people just know.
There are a few things to look for in her body language, such as longer then normal eye contact, grooming herself such as stroking her hair - have a look on the internet for other body langusge signals.
Have you tried asking them out for a drink or dinner, when it's just going to be the 2 of you? Even if she wasn't interested or already with someone I'm sure she would be flattered that you liked her to ask, and it wouldn't cause any upset.
Everyone goes through being nervous when they ask someone out and as long as it's done in a casual way, and you start off slowly getting to know each other, then there's not going to be any real embarrasement. You have to take chances other wise things and people are just going to pass you by.
Be brave and good luck!
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