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writes:Okay, so this isn't really an issue, more of a "what the heck is going on" type of situation.quite plainly, when i would have sex with my boyfriend in the missionary position, it would hurt. the odd thing is, it would hurt only around the bottom area of my vagina. lube didn't help, and going slowly didn't help either. usually we'd both just give up in disappointment, him frusterated and worried, me feeling depressed and not as good a girlfriend as i should be. i was planning on talking to my GYN to figure out what was going on.however recently, instead of starting in missionary, we've been doing it cowgirl style. and amazingly, no pain! as long as there is enough lubrication down there, we can go to town with no stops on account of vaginal pain! so while i figure this is pretty much the cure, just start sex sessions in cowgirl position than go to others, it's just really a bit baffling.it says online that missionary is the position with the least amount of penetration...so why the heck is it hurting? one nurse at my GYN suggested we were going fast, not enough foreplay and that he was stretching the muscle, but now that doesn't seem to be the answer. i'd really just kinda like to know what's going on!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 November 2013):
 During my most active years, some girlfriends complained of pain or discomfort in some positions, so we would simply experiment until a different position eliminated the problem. I'm a bit larger down there than most men, perhaps, but really not especially large. I think that many folks find their most comfortable and enjoyable positions, and that may remain true throughout life. But the body does change and adapt in time, so what proves painful now may not always be the case.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 November 2013):
 some positions work better than others depending on the couple.
it's not a reflection on you or on him... and if you have other positions that work then go for it and don't worry that ONE position does not work...
I realize that the key is that it's face to face but there are other positions that will give you the same intimacy such as dove tail (scissors) without the pain.
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reader, Bazinga  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 I remember one ex boyfriend who was a bit larger down stairs, if we did missionary it could hurt because he was hitting off my cervix, once even was a bit bruised but if we did doggy style or on top it did not hurt at all. Possibly a good idea to just see your Doctor anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): I have no idea why that hurts you in missionary since it's the simplest of sex positions. Maybe your vagina is tilted in some way so that it is painful for you. That's the only explanation that I can think of. Personally, I use missionary (because it hurts the least) or girl-on-top because I can control how deep he does or doesn't go as well as the speed. I do think that it's a good idea to use a lot of foreplay because imo, that's the best part!
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