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36-40,
*kasunaNoSasori
writes:Hello! Last September I met a girl and we have been going out for 3 months now, she is everything I have ever wanted. We have been on a few dates and have hugged/kissed and that's about it. I am 21 and she is too, I would just like to know where I go from here. We're both still virgins but we haven't discussed sex at all. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, AkasunaNoSasori +, writes (28 January 2008):
AkasunaNoSasori is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you very much MissKin!!
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Where do you go from here? You should be asking yourself and each other this question. Where do you want to go from here? You haven't talked about sex, which is the first issue. If you're going to move in that direction it has to be a mutual decision and you have to be sure you're ready. Be mature and talk to her about it. Be open with each other and you'll figure out what you each want and do not want or what you are and are not ready for. No one can answer this and tell you where to go because only you and her can figure that one out. Of course because you have only been on a few dates and merely hugged and kissed, maybe moving straight to the sex talk will be going too fast? Do you want a commited relationship? Is it just a bit of fun? Ask yourself these things and think about how fast you're wanting to move. To feel better about bringing up the subject of sex, or moving towards it, make the date more intimate - make it a candle lit dinner and a movie back at your place. Don't hold any expectations and you won't be disapointed. In the end you have to communicate with each other when it comes to sex, especially in regards to contraception, or else things could go wrong and cause problems. Whatever you do, don't try to rush into anything neither of you are ready for and make sure you're comfortable enough to talk to each other, as this makes for a stronger trusting relationship.
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