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writes: Ok I have a problem. I have been in a serious relationship for about a year and a half and I am very close with his family and lately we have been talking about getting engaged. I really felt that we were going to be together forever until I went on a mission trip to Mexico and met a guy that is 2 years younger than me. The guy I met is great. He is fluent in Spanish and English and he loves to help others and he is a great Christian unlike the guy I'm with now. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I will never get another chance with him. But on the other hand I want to be with a guy that I am just amazed by. What do I do? Break up with my boyfriend and tell the other guy how I feel. Or do I tell the other guy how I feel and then go from there. Or should I just drop it and just go on with my life pretending I don't have feelings for someone else.
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reader, b-Rit +, writes (4 February 2006):
 Hey sweety, Well I'm sort of going through the same thing as you only im on the other side being the "new girl" the exact same thing is happening to me This boy I really like is still with his girlfriend but he doesn't have feelings for her anymore and he told me he likes me alot more then her but he just hasn't had the heart to break up with her yet because he is in the same posistion as you he can't decide if his girlfriend is the right girl for him or if i could be.So to help you decide try and think of things this way...Does this new guy make you feel like you can totally be yourself around him? do you feel like you guys could really hit it off for a really long time? do you feel like you two could fall in love or have you already started to fall in love with him? ask yourself things like this Now to figure out if your boyfriend is the "one" you have to ask yourself do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him? and if so then you shouldn't leave him but if you have the slightest bit of doubt then maybe you should think of taking a break...theres no real way to figure out if hes the right one or not but you also don't want to blow this chance with someone else who might be right for you...what I always say is don't look for Mr. Right look for Mr. right now, your young and there are lots of guys out there don't spend your life wondering if you could have had something amaing with this "new guy" I say if you feel like theres really something there, and you and your boyfriend arn't really feeling that love conection anymore end it and give this new guy a chance! hope this helps!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 If you have feelings for someone else that are stronger than for your boyfriend, the answer seems simple to me. These are the things that we work out before marriage. Too many people choose to work them out later.
If Christianty is a big part of your life then you have to do the right thing. Be smart though. Is this new guy staying in Mexico. Do you want to be there? Think it through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I have a little more to add to the story. Last night I was talking to the "new" guy and he told me he had feelings for me and then I told him how I felt about him. But . . . I feel like a complete crappy girlfriend !! I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but b-Rit your right I only live once. This is the kicker I just don't want to blow my relationship if my boyfriend is the one I a suppose to be with forever. I just feel like I can't have feelings for more than one person at the same time and thats why I am so wierded out by the fact that I have feelings for someone else. Wow I hope this makes sense.
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reader, b-Rit +, writes (24 January 2006):
well you only live once. And do you want to go on the rest of your life regreting what could have happend with this other boy?..My advice to you is if you don't love your boyfriend as much anymore then you two should maybe take a break. there are plenty of men out there waiting for you. and i know sometimes its hard to give up what you know because you've had something so great. but you have to ask yourself...is that feeling of passion there anymore? if it isn't then maybe you should move on...if your still unsure hun then i would hang out with this other boy some more before you make any final decisions try to get to know this boy a little more before you make your final decision.hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2006): well if you dont love your boyfriend anymore there is no point in staying in the relationship, once you have ended that relationship then you can go and chase new guys. But also it maybe just that your lusting over this other guy really is your boyfriend worth leaving over a guy you have only just meet and ask yourself do your really know that much about him?
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