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Men - indifferent or very interested in being found attractive by the other sex?

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Question - (5 November 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 November 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

A question really for guys I guess, but I don't mind women answering - my friend and I are debating whether, if you know a guy say, through friends or somewhere like work and you don't see them that often but are friendly and would, for example, have lunch or a coffee together, then do guys in general hope or want the woman to like them as more than a friend? I ask because I very rarely get attracted to men, so I am honestly not that bothered if a man finds me attractive or not - I mean, it is nice when it happens but I'm not fussed. On the other hand, my friend reckons that men in general tend to always want or hope that the woman will like them more - I just assumed that most guys don't really think that much about it, but she says her current boyfriend told her that men are always looking for signs that a woman is interested in him, so women don't actually have to make all that much effort to show a man if they are interested in him as a potential boyfriend. What do people think?

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (6 November 2011):

eddie agony auntI think everyone likes to feel they are attractive. I know I like it when a woman is interested in me. My wife is different, she is a 10. She is one of those women that turns heads and other women often feel threatened by her looks.(she happens to have a great personality too) I can not tell you how many times random people have commented on her beauty. My point, she takes it in stride. We debated this before as well. She says she doesn't care about that stuff and it's not important to her. I argue that she has that attitude because she is numbed to this already. She gets it all the time. Average people don/t get this attention all the time so we might bask in the feeling a little longer.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011):

Everybody is different. No straight answer.

But generally I'd say, the less sex a guy is getting the more desperate he will be.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (5 November 2011):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntMost of us guys are DESPERATE for a woman - any woman - to find us interesting and/or attractive.... AND we hope that her interest will escalate in to a sexual liason..... It's as simple as that.....

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (5 November 2011):

person12345 agony auntI think it just varies on the person. Lots of women feel like that, lots of men don't (and visa versa). It has more to do with your own personal security than gender.

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