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anonymous
writes:Hello. Ok, for the last 2 weeks I have liked a girl that works in a pharmacy nearby my house. I am really bad at conversations and every time I try to talk to her when checking out, I end up looking like a completely and total idiot. Most of the time, nothing comes out when I try to talk to her.I Am Really Bad With Girls, Would Be An Understatement.Yesterday, I finally got the nerve to ask her out. I tried to be friendly, But I greatly failed. She replied back with "Maybe", "Let Me Think About It".At this point, I need advise on what to do. I have a past I am not proud of that I'm trying to keep in the past, and I've been trying really hard to get away from. I'm sick of playing all these games.I am not sure if this is her way of saying "No" in a mild way, or if she is just pulling my string because she knows that this will bother me.Does anyone have any suggestions on what she might mean by, "Maybe", And "Let Me Think About It"?Also, If I choose to go back and talk to her about this, How long of a time period should I let her think about it?Or should I just let this go, and not go back at all?Sorry, I'm a big mess, and I have NO clue what I am doing.Please help if you can. Thank you. =-)
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 You're very welcome hon!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTell her the truth about my nervousness and ask for her phone number. Maybe that is what she was trying to hint.
It's weird. Asking her out doesn't make me uncomfortable, but asking for her phone number does.
But, main point, Thanks again. =-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis has been very helpful. I really appreciate the time you put into the answer, it was really informative, and gave a lot of the tips I needed.
Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. =-)
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reader, satindesire +, writes (28 February 2009):
Sugar, don't read into what she said.
"Maybe, let me think about it." Means -exactly- that.
She isn't sure if she wants to go out with you. I mean, you two barely know each other. You should ask for her phone number so that you two can actually talk some more. Apologize for not getting her phone number next time you see her and tell her that you realize you two don't really know each other, and that you'd like to remedy that situation by talking some more.
When you talk to a girl, try to forget that she's a sexually attractive female. Talk to her in the same relaxed way that you would speak to a co-worker or male friend. Don't feel like you have to fill silences with speech, sometimes being comfortably quiet with someone is more valuable than idle chatter.
Instead of hiding your nervousness and trying to look 'smooth', be honest. Tell her that you aren't very good at talking to girls and that you like her so much you feel very awkward and nervous around her. Any girl worth her salt will help you out by suggesting things to talk about and soothing your nervousness with reassurances.
Also, talking on the phone will probably help your nervousness a lot. You won't be distracted by her physical appearance at all, leaving you to concentrate on the conversation. Here's a tip about conversation: Don't talk about non-neutral subjects...sex, politics and religion are OFF the table. Don't talk about your ex'es, keep the conversation pleasant and informative, not depressing.
Tell her about your family, your pets, your job. Tell her about your friends, funny experiences that happened, tell her about the music you like and the places you enjoy eating. Inform her about YOU as a person...your hobbies, likes, dreams and goals. What you want to be doing by the time you're 40. Ask her the same kinds of questions. Give her the opportunity to get to know the real YOU inside, and get to know the real -her- too.
I'm sure you'll do fine.
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