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writes:am 15 and ready to have sex but everyone thinks am too young, i look at porn but it doesnt resolve my cravings, im very mature, i do everything on my on, i really really want have sex because im ready! ive always be over sexual and am on birth control, i even have thoughts of doing it with an older man, because he can show me and help me though it and if i do this is a less chance of getting pregnant. im very confused what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): The only confusion here is that what you want to do is not matching what you are allowed to do. That isn't confusion, that is just part of life.
Being mature is when you do what is better for the long run instead of doing what you want right now. Not vice versa. Wanting to enjoy the perks of being an adult is not the same thing as being able to handle the costs and responsibilities of being an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): Ready or not, you cannot (at your age) legally consent to any form of sexual activity with another person. There are good reasons why such laws are in place. And why punishments are so harsh.
And older guy would wind up in Gaol. There is no middle ground.
So keep those desires in check by self-pleasuring, until you are not breaking the law by satiating your desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): yes wait until you find the right guy cause if you don't you'll get emotionally screwed
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 I lost my virginity at 14, i thought i was mature and ready. 2 years on, and i wish i waited 2 years. The boy i was with didnt care and that affects me a lot as i am filled with regret. Please wait for the good guy. and sex isnt all its craked up to be :P
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reader, Merilee  +, writes (7 November 2010):
Its not really about being psyicaly ready, its about being emotionaly ready.
There are guys out there who would love to take your virginity, but then they will be done with you. Do you think you could handle that ?
Relationships start first. Liking someone, loving someone, spending time with them, laughing, dating, romance, fights, common interests, putting the other first. Then sex, because then it isnt sex anymore, its actualy making love, its giving yourself to someone who deserves you giving yourself to them.
Dont cut yourself short because you desire the unknown. Wait until "that" guy shows up. The one who will never hurt you, the one who will appreciate the fact that you waited for him.
As for pregnancy, theres a lifelong commitment for a one time deal.
I say wait, not an age thing, but just wait for the guy you fall in love with.
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reader, fisch777 +, writes (7 November 2010):
Not to sound like everyone else but I agree you should wait. Atleast until you are in a committed faithful relationship and even then you should wait atleast 6 months. And as for doing it with an older man that's kind of silly. You can still get pregnant just as easily. Again, my opinion is, You should wait until you've been with someone that you really like for awhile. It'll make it that much better. Trust me. and when you do make sure to use a condom. I know you said your on birth control but you can still get STD's. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Physically you may feel ready to have sex but are you sure you are emotionally ready? I think you should have a stable relationship with somebody you love and who loves you then think about having sex, there's no rush and you are very young. Hormones are very powerfull at your age and you need to be 100% ready.
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