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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi all, we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary and my husband doesn't feel like having sex much. I m lucky if I get it once a week. And he gets erection after a lot of trying.I will give u some?background info. So basically we started as FWB and the sex was amazing and later we connected at all levels and? got married. *Explicit sexual details edited by the Moderator*.Now my husband finds my bum attractive so he just squeezes it to get erection and has to concentrate very hard to get one. I have tried to talk about this several times as I feel upset about it and he says nothing has changed. We work together so we are together 24*7 so there is no question of cheating. Has anyone faced this? We are young and have a long way to go so it's kind of disturbing that my sex life is not good as it should be for newly married couple. I love my husband.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2017):
 Hmm maybe he should talk to his doctor and get some tests done to make sure everything is okay. Although being together 24 7 is not healthy in a relationship. You both need to try and have separate lives as well.
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reader, sleepwalker  +, writes (24 April 2017):
Aside from a medical checkup, you may want to consider going to a sex therapist who may be able to help you two find new ways to have sex that are not so performance intensive (sexual intercourse).
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2017): Ever think that he enjoyed the FWB relationship more than an actual, proper relationship?
Maybe if it was an FWB again, his sex drive would "rise" from the ashes.
My guess is the fireworks faded and became dull and predictable in an actual relationship. There is more work involved and more emotional vulnerability. He obviously isn't into that part. So, likely he is pulling away sexually. Maybe it's his way of distancing himself from you and this relationship without having to balls to say anything. Maybe he thinks you will leave. Men are not very good at confronting issues. So, they hope the woman gets the hint and just gets tired of rowing the boat and leaves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2017): You most definately have right to a sex life so either he sees a MD or allows you a FB on the side IMO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2017): Gently suggest that your husband have his testosterone levels checked by a urologist...they very well might be low for whatever reason...if they are, he should consider testosterone replacement therapy....or maybe try some Cialis or Viagra first...cant hurt....might very well put a smile on your face...Your Welcome
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (22 April 2017):
 He needs to see a doctor; it may be stress or health causing trouble.
All couples need time to themselves and with others, so perhaps you should find another job, so you're not together 24/7.
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