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writes:Male Opinion needed! He asked me a question before having sex with me the first time and one after, does this question mean he wants a relationship something deeper? I got to know a significantly younger man through work for a couple of months and then after a date we had an intimate evening talking, then we got into bed together just to sleep, but he asked me "What do you envision for us?" I did not answer him directly because it took me off guard. We ended up making love for hours and after he held me and then asked "What are you thinking?" (I had already thanked him for my big O...) I also sort of did not answer directly and laughed it off. I am mad at myself for not telling him that I am crazy about him, but I am afraid we won't work out because of our age difference, that he won't want me really...do these questions mean he wants a relationship with me, and is also afraid to tell me up front? Earlier in the night he said he thought a lot of me...and up intill that night we were just friends....I am a little freaked out here. Please tell me what you think guys and gals...your friend from across the pond. Reply to this Question |
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Age is not important as long as you are both of a legal age which I gather from this post you are.
The way to communicate is to answer the questions he asks when he asks them, I was with a guy once and when he wanted to find out if I was thinking the same as him about wanting to take the relationship into a proper committed relationship, he never told me what he wanted he asked me questions like what you was asked to test the waters so once he has asked he could say me too and go for the next step, I think what alot of us forget is that men worry about things like this aswell as us girls, I think we seem to think its not a problem for them and they are the stronger sex.
Next time you see him and your alone I would mention the questions he asked and answer them for him as he may now be worried about bringing them back up incase you laugh them off again. I did this and it worked out.
Good luck :o)
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reader, glassofwater +, writes (29 September 2006):
I think he is crazy about you. guys don't tend to ask these questions. i think you need to lay it all out on the table and talk about it before someone gets hurt.
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reader, SOM1 +, writes (29 September 2006):
From what I read. I think he is trying to establish what your "relationship" is all about. It seems like hes just trying to get to know you by asking questions like that. How to communicate with him clearly? Just answer his questions, and not avoid them. These days age means nothing, it's just about people in relationships, or whatever.
I do not know that those questions are about if he wants a relationship with you, but like i said, those are questions you ask to get to know someone's expectations.
Just answer his questions honestly.
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