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writes: I have been in a relationship for 6 years now. I never had a boyfriend before starting a relationship with this particular man. Although I was happy to marry him within the first few months of dating, now I am petrified of that thought, scared to admit that he may not be the one for me. I have been feeling this way for a few years now, and although he is an awesome guy and is definitely more into me than I am into him, I always found myself convincing myself to stay with him, for reasons that suited my own benefit than giving him a chance to find a real person who would give this man the proper love he deserves. Over the six years, we broke up once( one month) where I took this time to date another man, although this man turned out to be a jerk, I valued my boyfriend and decided to committ to him, knowing all well, that although i may not be in love with him, I do love him and we make a great team. But within these past few months, those feelings again are fading and I just don't know what to do anymore. Do I really love this man and commit to him no matter what, or do I love the idea of him, but am just not in love with him....AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2006): well the thing is i had the same problem as u i even broke up with my boyfriend because i jsut didnt like him in that way but after a while i really did begin to love him and now we r stronger than ever but i think tht because you havent had a proper boy friend before him maybe thats whats is bothering you,that you are feeling that u r comitting to the first person u loved but i recomend that you try something new with him thats more excitng and think about all the great things that made u love him in the first place. it might be that he isnt a romantic person i dnt know tht but if he isnt then sit and talk with him
but if he is a really descent guy and has always treated u right then i think maybe u should look back on all the great times u have had with him but u cant help the way u feel and maybe u are just getting cold feet from the wedding so dont worry and do what feels right with u
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (8 October 2006):
Wow girl you have a real issue here! I think you might be slightly insecure about yourself and maybe your not entirely sure in your head let alone your heart. I dont think this is a right time in your life for a relationship as its not fair to yourself or your boyfriend when you dont know what it is you want. I think the best thing for you to do would be to spend some time apart from him maybe go on holiday for a short break and collect your thoughts by writing them down and time apart will either make you realise you want him or make you realise that the single life is what you need at the moment. Good luck
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