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writes: Ive been with the girl that I lost my virginity to for a month. While im happy its finally gone, over the past 3 days ive thought about who it was with, and feel nothing but regret, I don’t exactly know why. Its been on and off everyday, and I feel like im going to feel like this forever. I guess I kinda feel like I blew it on her, just when I was starting to accept the fact that I was a virgin. I probably wouldn’t have regretted it if she was someone random afterwards, but I made it this far (21 years!!) so that, unlike soo many I know, I wouldn’t end up regretting my first. I prided myself on that! But now I feel so stupid for missing so many opportunities with so many better people, and taking the ONE I should have passed because I didn’t want to miss another one, and fell into the same trap as everyone else, just a lot later. In a way I shouldn’t feel bad; I’m a guy ( lol) its something ill never have to worry about again, im still with her (barely) and I know she loves me, and I do love her (not in love with her). But I still feel horrible. since shes found what she has, shes held it over my head, comparing me to those she’s been with and making fun of me bc I couldn’t, and threatening to tell my friends and hers. And Sorry to sound so shallow, I wanted to lose it to someone beautiful inside and out.. shes not an ugly girl, but shes sort of chubby, and personality isn’t that great. The girl before her that I almost lost it to was beautiful, a virgin as well, and also loved me, and I wish I had gave it to her… wow if she knew this shed laugh her ass off at me… im so embarrassed, and hurt that I feel like I settled. It hurts to the point that I don’t want to be with her. I don’t know how to feel or what to do anymore. Am I just overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh and FYI, i understand that i got myself in this situation, i take full responsibility for it. i know its not fer fault, and im going to work on getting rid of this feeling- i know ill find someone better, and ive learned a lot from this. i guess with so much emphasis placed on the first time i felt it should have been absolutely perfect... theres a lot more to why i feel this way, i just dont want to go into a long episode ((lol))
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni understand, thank you. i didnt regret it before, at the time it was what i wanted. we checked with each other to make sure it was what we wanted. and it wasnt the last time we've done it. when i thnk about it i thnk its more disappointment than regret, i just thought id lose it to someone better.then too i was kind of worried about what others would think, because shes not like the girls i usually date..beside that event and until recently, she made me happy.
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reader, Sweettennisgirl  +, writes (18 June 2007):
AWWWW sorry to hear about this hun. I think that the best thing for you to do is too move on away from this girl. She does not sound like the kinda of girl that deserves you at all! If she loved you and felt any feelings towards you she wudent of made fun of you and especialy not compare you to others. And the way she is black mailing you, threatening to tell your friends and hers is terrible, you need to get out of this situation now before it gets worse! Maybe at the start when u did lose your virginity to her it felt rite but things soon change and neways you can make ur next time special with a girl who is rite for you and dosent put u down! There are plenty of nice girls out there, u jus need to find them! Hope this helps you at all! Luv Ali xxxx :)
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reader, love-him +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hia .. it isnt the girls fault that u lost ur virginity to her.. you are talking like you never even liked this girl.. talking about your ex! move on and find someone you like and not everyone has the best looks but not everyone cares. i hope i helped.. mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (18 June 2007):
Break up with the chubby girl and let her find someone who loves her for who she is, instead of comparing her to past girls.
Just because you had sex with her doesn't make you married. And don't think that losing it to a girl you had no special feelings for is a bad thing. Maybe this'll help when you do find the sweet girl of your dreams, so you'll be experienced enough to help her lose her virginity without it being pure bedroom comedy? If you don't know what you're doing it can take several tries, which as you might guess, spoils the romantic mood.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (18 June 2007):
Look, i can understand how you feel... i regret who i lost my virginity to... however, it was not this girls fault, so you need to try and get over yout regrets... and make the next person someone even more special.
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