A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:So, theres this guy and we are really close friends but I know that we both want to take it abit further.Thr problem is, he lives over 3 hours away by car, and we only get to see each other at weekends in the summer as we met each other at a club where we both windsurf.I am totally head over heels for him, Ive never felt like this before and I am 98% sure he feels the sames.He treats me like im the only girl in the world and makes md feel like that. He is two years older and Im worried that hes gonna fall for some college girl as we wont see eachother until March!I said goodbye to him a week ago and I miss him dearly -Is there anything I can do to distract myself from him?Do you think a long distance relationship could work for someone my age? Or do you think I should just guve up and move on?I think that in the back of both our minds, we have both ruled out a rrelstionship at the moment because of the distance - but i definetley thunk something will happen in the future.If he does date someone else.... How do I get over that?Thanks -- i really do like him, this isnt a silly teenage crush thing, ive known him for two years and we really close friends, you couldnt even call us friends - we are more like a married couple!.... I just dont know what id do without him
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 LDRs can work but they're not for everyone. At your age, you're too young to handle a LDR..you still want to hold, cuddle, kiss this guy, you crave and need that attention you're not getting. All you would have is a phone/computer relationship. Does he have a license or a car to come and see you? You got to have a little bit of travel. So again, it's not ideal for you, plus you guys have already established it's not an option.
You find activities, hobbies to occupy your time wisely, so you're not sitting around pining over him. He's going to college, and yes he's going to meet other girls there. Out of sight, out of mind..he may date someone else, there's nothing you can do about it except for find a guy in your area to date. I say keep it as friends/pen pals with this guy. Something may happen in the future, or you could move on and find someone else. If it's meant to be he'll find a way back to you. It's good to be optimistic but you have to stay realistic.
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