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female
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36-40,
*eng32
writes:Hi there friends...I really need your advice..I have a long distance relationship and know for a year.we don't meet yet and we both christian born again...and I dont want this guy to entertain but he was keep in contact with me even if j don't.in my side because I was sine and searching a partner I fell in to him.and I fought him telling him your scam because I am scared of what internet goes in now a days and many fake people and pretending to be.his response he said he is real and not scam.he sent be picture of him and later part he ask to me also.so both agreed to have a relationship.and getting older the month of being relationship with him he ask naked picture.I refuse and scared.I know cause of I heard some in news about to careful about.he asking me about it.I don't want to but I fell in to him and I sent.but I really scared.and he told me come this year in next month.he said not scam he is true and he keep telling me that I played to him and I said I am not.he promise to come to next year and he a Christian born again.what can u help this.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2017):
 No please do not send naked pictures to someone you have never met he could be a scammer asking lots off girls this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2017): He is no born again Christian but a scammer putting you on his victim list.
He is bad news.
Dont take his messages or meet up.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (28 September 2017):
 A born again Christian asking for naked pictures? Interesting. Something is off here and I don't like it.
Honey, I don't need to tell you how unsafe it is to send naked pictures. They can end up in terrible porn sites and be used for blackmail etc.
At the very least, if you feel you absolutely want to, blur out your face so you cannot be recognized. There's a news article I recently read where an older man tricked this young girl into sending him pictures he then sold to fellow pedophiles online. He then blackmailed her for sexual favors and the poor girl committed suicide because of all the stress/trauma.
Honey, please be safe. Please be careful. Do NOT let anyone pressure you into doing things you are not comfortable with. You are important and your feelings matter! If you feel threatened by this guy in any way, cut contact and let the authorities know. There are ways to trace people online.
Again, please be safe.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (28 September 2017):
 Honetly OP, never send naked pictures to people that you don't know. In fact, you shouldn't even be dating this guy that you haven't ever met. For all you know he could be some weirdo sitting behind a laptop screen, preying on vulnerable females like yourself.
You need to listen to your intuition on this one. He seems like a creep.
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (28 September 2017):
 Don't do it! The photos could end up anywhere!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (28 September 2017):
 There is no need for naked photos when you haven't even MET in person. LISTEN to your gut.
Why do you think you OWE him naked photos? Because he keeps asking? Is that really the kind of man you want to be with? Someone who doesn't RESPECT your boundaries? Who doesn't accept you saying no?
Is he visiting next month (as in October 2017) or sometime in 2018?
I think you are doing yourself a disservice by not only dating this guy but also by not listening to your own instincts.
Naked photos can be just fine in a LONG TERM relationship where the people involved know, love and respect each other. YOU do not KNOW this man. All you know is what he has CHOSEN to tell you. It's a whole other story if you had met him nay times in person, met family and friends and had an ACTUAL relationship, not just a "virtual" one.
You say he is a Christian born again... well, that is what he told you. Again, you don't know for sure.
You need to be for FIRM in your own beliefs. You need to be a little less trusting. There is a REASON there have been so many stories in the news with people using "consensually sent" nudes to blackmail, harm others or to make money off them or posting them on various online sites... for whatever reason.
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