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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I absolutely have no idea where do I stand.I am 25 years old, and a lesbian, I broke up with my ex girl friend after 3 years of relationship.But we still share the same room or stay under one roof .She has a long distance relationship with another woman ever since we broke up. Now the thing is she says she has never loved anyone like me before and she still loves me and I think I love her too. She confessed that she has a strange feeling for this woman and admitted that she cant help it. She is in touch with her every day through Internet / mobile phone. Whenever she's on the phone with her girlfriend, I get hurt and I'm jealous. It even hurts more when I know that she's making love to her. I have a doubt whether she really loves me or her. Because we often kiss or make out and we do almost all the things together like partners. And when she had bad times with her girl friend, she would even ask me to marry her and when they patch up she wouldn't even say that she loves me or kiss me properly.This is quite weird. She's suffering from Lupus and she's jobless, I don't even want to leave her and move on with my life, cos' I know she has no-one to look after her, neither her girlfriend would come here to my country nor could she go to her as she doesn't have enough money. Its like she cant live without her gal and she wants me as well. M so confused and helpless. I cannot even flirt around with other girls as she gets upset if I do so. Please help me and give me some advice.
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reader, missy_musk  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 You have told me that you get jelous when she is with this other girl and that she gets jelous when you flirt with others.That to me shows that you do both have feelings for eachother.Mabe she does love you, but perhaps she is not "in love" with you?. In any case you clearly are not happy right now.Mabe you should consider going out and meeting new people for a while? After all, your single and she has no right to expect you to sit indoor moping around and being there ready for her to use you whenever she wants to! On the other hand you could try talking to her, but from what you say she is not ready to let this other woman go. You need to be happy. I might sound like a hippy but if you both split up then it was obviously because one or both of you were not happy. You deserve to be happy dont you? feel free to mail me at any time. xx
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