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Lesbian sisters?

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Question - (23 October 2007) 27 Answers - (Newest, 12 March 2008)
A female United States age 22-25, *krogirl writes:

hi. i am 18 and i am a lesbian. my younger sister is 13 and we are close. i have started to get horny around her and want to know if this is wrong. should i not spend as much time with her?

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (12 March 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntThis is one post that should stay buried in the past it brings in the weirdos.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008):

I am currently 16. I recently started having feelings for my younger brother (age 14), and I have had feelings for my sister (age 21) for some time now.

I casually asked my brother if he was interested, and he said he would try it. So, we've done a little on occasion, but only when we both feel up to it.

Likewise with my sister, if we both want to do it, we will.

I realize that we are young, but we still know what our sexual desires are. And, as I said, we will only do it when we both want to. There's no rape involved.

So, I suggest to anyone wanting to do this, that if you are both up for it, it's OK. Just keep it that way. Don't take advantage of anyone.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008):

i,d take her aside and try and bring about the subject but not coming on to strong. try and weave the conversation so that she can tell you waht she feels without you asking her. then you either fuck her or go back to a sister sister relationship.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008):

you should spen as much time as you normally do with her

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (26 February 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntIts amazing when you get SICKOS saying its ok to shag their siblings keep anonymous. Whats the matter are you secretly ashamed??????

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008):

this is tough. well first off it is natural to get horny around the sex you are attracted to. first off ask her how she feels about it. if she wants to try having sex with you, get her alone and have sex with her. only thing is start off slow. gently caress her and kiss her. then move on the real thing. but if either of you start to get uncomfortable, stop. you don't want to ruin your relationship as sisters. i say at least try it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008):

yeah she's underage thats a little fucked up. wait until shes older if you still have these feelings

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008):

For God's sake she's a CHILD, no way should you be putting her in such a desperate situation, you could seriously damage her.

And she's your SISTER, if you care for her, you will not put her in a situation that could leave her feeling confused or upset.

Get a grip and sort out your feelings away from your sister.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008):

It is ok to feel the way you do

I am 48 now and when I was 15 my 12-year-old sister asked me about my breasts.

I told her that what happens, as you grow older and that she would have a nice pair too.

I asked her if she wanted to feel them. She said yes and I let her.

I explained how she could gently run her hands over them and how nice it felt.

I let her squeeze them. I told her I needed to lie down so she could keep caressing my breast.

I started to moan and my breathing changed, she asked if she was hurting me?

I told her no it felt good and to keep going.

Even now when we get together alone we both caress each other. We are very close friends, lovers, and sisters.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008):

yes it natural

your not getting horny over her

just getting horny

its a natural pubertiy

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008):

hi there

I cant believe , how some people can say its all right and see how she feels for u , ask her some question to find out ,may be she feels same for u.. BS.

I dont know about law much but all i care is that she is just 13 so pls dont do anything that will affect her psychologically.. someone is still suffering after 15 yrs ,, I am sure u dont want this to happen to ur sister bcos u love her ,, Dont u ?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

It is not wrong at all!First just get a little bit sexual with her.If she dosn't ask she feels the same way about you but if she dose ask why your hand is moving towards her vagina and shes not smiling she dosn't.Secondif she does feel the same way go for her if she dosn't and she wants to tell your parents then you tell her your going to tell your parents about something she did that you know about and just have sex with some other girl.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008):

As long as it feels good I say do it. I have had sexwith my sister, and we are still best friends.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008):

Its DEFINATELY a no-go area. Girl! your sister is only 13. Don't mess her mind up with all this stuff. Even if she was 18, FAMILY & FAMILY - thats incest - an abomination, a taboo, head-to-toe guilty of sin. Stay away from her and encourage her into other things when you find yourself getting too close. Please, for the sake of your own family, cause it could destroy that too. Bless you and good luck. Don't forget, you are a better person when you do the right thing.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008):

Do not have sex with family-members, period! And all of those who have: lock-up!

You can have sex with another girl, but family?! NO!

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A female reader, Crisy United Kingdom +, writes (5 January 2008):

Crisy agony auntYes its wrong number 1 shes under age, number 2 she your sister!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008):

Well, in the off chance that she does feel the same way about you, you should tell her. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you're outa luck. Don't press her though. If she doesn't feel strongly about you more then a sister would, don't press her to do somthing. If she does don't expect your current relationship to stay the way it is if you do somthing with her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008):

Well, in the off chance that she does feel the same way about you, you should tell her. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you're outa luck. Don't press her though. If she doesn't feel strongly about you more then a sister would, don't press her to do somthing. If she does don't expect your current relationship to stay the way it is if you do somthing with her.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007):

Being horny around your sister isn't wrong, but just make sure she's fine with it if you do fuck her. There's no reason to be shy about it, just tell her and she'll, understand.

I remember when I first fucked with my 19 year old sister when I was only 14, and it didn't fell wrong at all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007):

omg, having feelings for your sister is really damn wrong.

But im sorry everyone but im pretty sure that this is a joke / prank.

however if it is real, then you have to think seriously about it, because it is very wrong.

seriously.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007):

What I would do is tell her how you feel and if you want to fuck with her just bring it up on a hypothetical question and see what her answer is. If she says yes, then in a few day just start to gently sexual harass her and start to feel her up. Most girls won't give up on a challenge and want to actually see another girl and have some fun. I'm thirteen and I know that if my sister got horny off of me I would ask her what's wrong and drag her sorry ass into a bedroom and fuck. I know this sounds over rated but it's the truth. She probably gets horny around you also but you just don't realize it. I have a sister and after we fucked together when I was 12 and she was 19 we just start eating each other out whenever we have a bad day and want to get something off our mind or if we just want to have an orgy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007):

Your question is a little confusing. By asking "Is it wrong?" I don't know whether this is a general appeal to the individual moral compass's of those who respond, or the broader social perspective on this particular issue. As an admitted Lesbian, I am guessing you have had to face your fair share of social stigmatization and you certainly don't need to add to that.

In the broader view of society the two areas that this situation touches on (incest, and pedophilia) are outlawed for the following reasons. Incest is outlawed in this country solely based on the likely hood the probability of genetically corrupt children. For you this is not a problem, but there are a plethora of problems and barriers you would still wrestle with should you choose to pursue your desire. Not the least of which is your own family dynamic (how your parents, possible other siblings, and extended family would react)but also your environment (friends, community, and outlook/perspective of the area you live in).

Most important are the feelings or your sister, who already will be looking to you as a role-model during her teen years. Your greatest responsibility is to her, catering to her needs and not your own desires.

Finally, her age is a huge barrier. Additional laws exist against relationships with minors as at a biological level they are not as mentally mature as adults and therefore unfit to make such serious decisions that will have impacts on the course of their life. (Decision making centers such as the prefrontal cortex and hypothalmus are not fully developed till at least 21, despite physical maturation capping out at 18).

My personal advice is to be there for her during these next 5 years as her big sister no matter what and to not put your relationship at risk. Besides, she may not reciprocate your feelings, and your arousal may be a passing thing. There are historical precedents of sisterly love becoming sexual in many cultures around the world, but you owe it to her to make sure that she at least has a responsible sister in her life. Wait. Wait until you know she is both mature and ready for you to share your personal wants before attempting to change your relationship.

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A female reader, Tee Bird United Kingdom +, writes (23 October 2007):

Tee Bird agony auntIt sounds like your a bit confused (sexually). Personally i think these feelings are VERY wrong but if your feeling that you might be gay/lesbian and your around your sister, it might be confusing you. You may be becoming aware that u find the female form attractive but this doesn't necessarily mean u fancy your sister, you may just be inquisitive and if your around your sister alot and becoming aware of your sexuality you could be forgiven for feeling like this, especially as u realise its wrong and are contemplating spending less time with her. I think u need to get your roll as 'big sister' into perspective. She is still very young and innocent. Your an 18 yr old young lady.. remember that she looks to you as a role model. Be the best big sister you can be. You should be protecting her xx

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A female reader, Blue_Angel0316 United States +, writes (23 October 2007):

Blue_Angel0316 agony aunt First of all she is way too young to be involved in any sexual activity. Next she is your SISTER which is hands off. She is too young to know what she is really doing and you are old enough to know that this is wrong!

Be a good sister and get control of yourself. You shouldn't even consider this PERIOD!

Am I my brother's Keeper? (Sister's) Protect her she is innocent. May God give you direction so you can understand and make the proper decision.

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A male reader, Dextro69 United Kingdom +, writes (23 October 2007):

Dextro69 agony auntIn law it is wrong because you are sisters (incest) and because of her age (paedophilia).

Morally most people would say it is wrong for realations to act in urges but only you can say if you think it is morally right or wrong to you.

i would advise you keep it as a sister sister relationship as whilst she may respond to your sexual advances to begin with this could rapidly change.

I experimented sexualy with my brother at the age of 13 for a couple of weeks but didnt like it and told him to stop, he didnt and ended up rapping me as and when he felt like it for 2 years. This still effects me mentally today 15 years after lhe last case. Do you want your sister to still be suffering 15 years down the line?

if you try anything with your sister it may end up that you never speak more than a few words ever again.

PLEASE do not let her have the hatred towards you that i have for my brother, you learn to live with it but it is not a nice feeling to have to live with.

I am not saying you would rape your sister but leagaly that is what it will be if you do anything before she is 18.

go out and meet someone your own age and enjoy a relationship with them, and enjoy your live with your sister as one of your best friends and nothing more.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (23 October 2007):

rcn agony auntShe's your sister. It is wrong to act on your impulses, but don't cut her out because of them. You can still act as a sister to her without being with her.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007):

Do you think it is wrong?

I mean, through common society and most religions and of course based around your regional laws, this is considered wrong. However, this is a taboo that no one wants to talk about or address and simply brush it aside. For those who feel it is wrong, well, it's simple, they just say it's wrong. For those who are indifferent, it's most likely because we find that love and sex is limitless. Mind you, you're 18 and your sister is 13. Even if you two aren't sisters, she is still only 13, AND just because you're a lesbian, doesn't mean that she is a lesbian.

So in short, do what you think is the best for your 13 year old sister. At her age, she is going through hormonal changes in her body, let alone psychological changes as well. Give her the option and the freedom to choose the way she wants to grow up, rather than possibly have you force your sexual libido upon her, and possibly cause confusion in her.

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