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LDR things are getting weird and I'm not sure where to go with it

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Question - (14 July 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 15 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *.h.6710 writes:

so i met this really cute guy on a dating site and he came to where i live, which is like 2 hrs away from where he lives, 2 days after we started talking. the first date went great. we kept talking constantly sometimes until about 4 o clock in the morning. he came again the 2nd week and we were kissing and holding hands, so by the end of the date i found myself asking him where he thought we were standing, relationship wise. he told me that to him we were in a relationship. so that happened and we kept talking a lot and got along great and he would come see me every week as his work allowed it. about 3 weeks into the relattionsip he started acting distant, we would talk or rather text like we did before. but the difference was that i was always, from that point on, the first one texting. and unlike before he would take a longer amount of time texting back. i havent seen him in about 2 weeks because he had to go out of state, during which time i gave him his space and we hardly talked. actually i didnt text him after i found out he was going out of state until he texted me telling me he missed me. he again texted me to let me know he was back, which was a week ago today. it seemed things were gonna go better, but instead theyre getting weird. we havent talked now for about 4 days and i dont know what to do. should i text him and see whats going on?. or should i wait for him to text me?. what should i do?. i really like the guy and want the relationship to work out.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntIf you think he is a keeper I would talk to him. Or write him a long e-mail. As long as you don't do it in a accusatory way (as in,, you do this wrong and this wrong, know what I mean?)

He's got a pretty trying job, that is another thing you have to think on. He might not be able to tell you he is going places, where he's been, what he's been doing. Which means you two REALLY need to work on building trust.

Good luck.

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A female reader, g.h.6710 United States +, writes (15 July 2010):

g.h.6710 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

hey honeypie,

well actually i know everything someone has to know about someone after going out for a month. He's told me stuff about his family. I know what he works in, he's a marine. Because of this it complicates how much we talk and see each other. But when we do see or talk we really get along, thats eactly why all this weirdness and distance between us trips me out alot. I want to save the relationship and i dont know how, i really trust him and i really like him but i dont know what to do. What do you think?. Should i try to talk to him or leave it as it is?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntMaybe this whole LDR is not for you? How much do you know about this guy? His job, his family and so forth?

LDR are hard hard work and you need to have decent communication and a whole lot of trust.

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