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*razystupidme
writes:I am a 23 year old Indian girl working in a very niche field. I met this 24 year old European guy when he came to work in India for 2 months from the European office of our company. Previously, I had short duration frequent relationships and had never been in love. While he had a serious year long relationship where his gf broke his heart and then he had 3 one-night stands in a year before meeting me.We were physically attracted to each other right from the start and mutually decided to start a casual physical relationship a week after we met. As the days passed, we started behaving more like a couple. We were spending all our time together - working together in the office (where we kept it a secret), going for after work drinks and then sleeping over at each other’s place and going for weekend trips with some friends from our work team. We were cuddling and sleeping together without having sex, were physically demonstrative at office when no one was watching, kept a change of clothes at each other’s place, got jealous when either of us paid too much attention to someone of the opposite sex and started justifying our opposite sex friendships to each other. Though, we came from different countries, races, religion and cultures, we shared some similar values, engaging conversation and common hobbies. We were also constantly lying to our friends from work who we also hung out with but all of them eventually knew but didn’t confront us.On our last night together, we finally admitted to each other that we were in love - not blindly since both of us are fully aware of the other’s faults and shortcomings. We are not going to see each other in the next 6 months after which I might go work at the European office. Long distance relationships make us both insanely jealous if either of us misses our daily skype sessions. We often have to collaborate remotely for work and it hurts like crazy to behave like nothing happened. I feel like we should officially end it because this in-between situation hurts badly but he is going to accuse me of not being able to commit and not trusting him enough. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2016): Great, best wishes to you.
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reader, crazystupidme +, writes (22 October 2016):
crazystupidme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would love to try but if it doesn't work out my work life would be in trouble. I am a young female in a niche field and there's hidden prejudice.
So, I have decided to not drag the relationship through LDR where we might end up hating each other. I couldn't bear it if this happened with him.
It was a magical affair and I am thankful to him for teaching me how to be selfless, be kind even when inconvenient, being my first love, always being positive and a bunch of work related stuff. All these are stuff that I always had trouble with in the past.
Also, I believe that if something was meant to be, it would happen. I am planning to stay single and just work on myself. And hope he finds happiness.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 October 2016):
 If you really loved him you would try, but if you are having doubts then maybe you don't love him as much as you think you do. You really need to think it through as long distance is hard so you will need to make an effort. Make sure you are up to it before committing to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2016): It's only 6 months, what's stopping you from trying? Especially since you say you're in love with him. You're going to be in his country after 6 months aren't you?
However if this is a niche field you must think of the what could happen should this not work out. Would you have to switch jobs?
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