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writes:Hi. I've been in a LDR for about a year now. i love my gf and she loves me the same. recently i have found myself doing quite more "sweet and romantic" things more than her. its bothered me for a while and now i cant take it any more. i thought i would just ignore it but it sucks. she doesn't seem to be the romantic type. i have to crack my head over ideas on how to please her but it gets too much, now i feel like i have over invested and gotten little in return. i trust her and don't think she might have another bf?? i don't know anymore. she probably thinks some things she does like call me frequently are sweet but it doesn't count much with me tbhwe write often and keep in touch but im failing to do that when i'm the one who has to pull all the sweet moves. to make matters worse, a close friend of mine confessed to liking me. i don't know what to do..should i bring it up with her, if yes then how without offending her?advice please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): yes we are meeting up. i'd want her to reciprocate because its the right thing to do, i need to feel loved. as a basic human need, its got to be fulfilled right.we love each other that's definite. we have done a lot of things other couples don't dream of...i feel this way because she can't, in a manner of speaking, knock me off my knees. most of the awesome i had to initiate and "invent". i love her to bits but its eating me away. i don't think she knows i feel this way but it appears i'm shut out of her life. like she only thinks about me when we're together otherwise she'd throw some surprises like i do
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reader, shabby-chic  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 hi,Relationships are all about give and take and it appears that you believe you are putting in all the hard work. Also being a LDR it sometimes requires more effort. I would advice you to bring it up with her especially as it bothers you quite a lot. If she cares about you she will see where your coming from then make an effort to meet you halfway. However bearing in mind some people are just not naturally romantic. But Im sure there are ways in which she could till meet you halfway. In regards to your friend, it all comes down to whether you are willing to sacrifice what you currently have with your gf, for a new relationship. But that would not be fair, speak to her first and ascertain where you both stand and whether the relationship can still be salvaged.Regards,
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 people have their own ways to show their significant other they love them
why do u want ur ldr gf to reciprocate the same way?
also,have u ever met her?
are u going to meet her?
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