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anonymous
writes:My bf works for UPS and goes in work at either 3, 4, or 5am and gets off no later than 11. He always text me after he's done which he did today at 10 am "goodmorning sleepy head :)" I text him back about 5 mins later and never got a text back. I sent 3 text 2 hrs later so I panicked like a typical girl that he was cheating or got in a wreck since my grandma did about a week ago. I called twice and left a voicemail the second time. 40 mins later I called and it went straight to voicemail. I know it couldn't have died this quickly......am I overreacting? Am I wrong? How do I handle this situation? We're also in a long distance relationship so I cant just show up at his house I wont see him till next week.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 May 2014):
 you didn't panic like a "typical girl" you over-reacted like an insecure LDR partner.
Insecurity has no place in any relationship but it's harder and more painful and debilitating in an LDR.
Perhaps you are not cut out for an LDR.
Maybe his phone died. Maybe it fell in a pool. Maybe he left it on the truck...
You're follow up says "he's a guy so he never memorized my number" well sometimes girls don't memorize them but when my husband and i were LDR, he knew my numbers by heart.
when we were LDR I had to get used to not being able to get a hold of him for long times... back then I had no clue it was that h e sleeps weird hours and very deeply.... it wasn't that he was hurt or ignoring me...
yeppers you are wrong.
how to handle it... now you wait for him to contact you...
don't go all psycho and over-react when you do hear from him.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (13 May 2014):
This is a good way to push him away from you. Just take it easy, he's not a little boy, so you don't need to be over protective. I'm sure by now you've heard from him and won't read these replies so I'm done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been 8 hrs and his phone is still going to voicemail. Im worried that he is hurt or something. He's a dude so I know he didnt memorize my number so if he lost his phone cant contact me :(. Idc what he's doing just want to know he's okay...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (13 May 2014):
 I think you're catastrophising. Making a catastrophe about nothing much. I've done it a million times. There could be many reasons why he hasn't been in touch, the least likely are cheating or an RTA. Don't let your imagination and fears run amok. I bet by the time you read this, you've heard from him and all is well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2014): Don't make excuses for behaving childish.
You're freaking-out due to insecurity, and demanding attention. It's got nothing to do with your grandmother.
He's busy working, and maybe you need to find things to do with the idle-time on your hands. Other than waiting for his messages. Maybe spend some extra time helping your grandmother.
If you smother him, and behave like a spoiled little girl; he will tire of it. He will find reasons to be around you even less.
You are overreacting, and no one has to tell you that.
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