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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello all, Ladies, please tell me....do girls "really" sense that a man is interested in them? Or is it just a myth?I'm talking about...the workplace, day to day situations, evening classes, groups etc. Therefore, if you do notice this and you are interested, will you give subtle hints????? I'm curious!! Thank you xxx
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Depends...how noticable are your hints? And are they really hints? What are you doing to make that girl think....hmmm...I think he likes me/or is he trying to ask me out? Me personally, I would know if he is. It's the eye contact, his "talking" to me, if I know him well and whatever "it" is...is just not the norm so to speak...and the almightly big one....he just comes right out asks me out! When a guy has been flirting with me, of course I know "something"...but, I have to play that out. He really could be "just a flirt"...and then, he could be "just a flirt" with me...know what I mean?
ONLY if I'm interested, would I give those "hints" back in return. If not, I might...smile maybe, joke back but let him know I'm not interested right then in "my" own way...not to hurt his feelings, just not interested. It's not that he may or may have done anything wrong...I just know when I would "click" with someone. I think all people are different in this area...some know, some are curious, and some just aren't ready for a relationship at all.
And I think at "our" age....WE KNOW! :)
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female
reader, dearkelja + ♥, writes (25 July 2008):
 I think it depends. Some guys like the attention and act like they are interested and when we give subtle hints they never act on it so we eventually "ask the guy" for coffee or something and then are sometimes met with rejection. Then we wonder, how on earth could I have gotten his signals wrong, I thought he liked me. I've determined that it's because some guys (and girls) just like to flirt and don't want anything more. And some guys and girls are just too nice. This is taken by both parties as "interest". So, after a few of these, speaking for myself, I tend to brush off what I am sensing as signals. And I probably will wait (forever perhaps for some guys I like) for the guy to ask me out.
I hear we women can ask guys out and then I hear we can't or shouldn't. Some guys take it as overly agressive and assume we are easy. But I have seen in today's 30-40 year olds that some of the men are so used to women asking them out that they don't approach women. I also think guys are more reluctant to ask women out these days.
So, I guess I've not been too helpful. All I will say is that today's dating world is very confusing.
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