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writes: I have a good relationship with a younger man who is 19 years younger than I am. It is ok to consider sex in our relationship? The age thing won’t get in the way? Ladies please respond. Should an older woman have sex with a younger man? Any considerations? Ladies I am also interested in hearing about your relationships with younger men? Did your relationship involve sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, ladyluver  +, writes (26 March 2009):
Give the guy the thrill o fhis life. When I was abut 18 i gout laid by a 40 yer old babe i saw stars.
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reader, XxAnGelXxx  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Age is just a number, as long as its legal then do whatever comes naturally :)
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reader, askJAY  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 i don't think its necessarily wrong. have consenting fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Hi,I am waqar from Pakistan, i'm a boy 22.Well, This is not a Problem. Love don't see our Ages, Colors, Money, County etc...!See, If you're a christian or Jew then remember the tory of Prophet Josuf (A.S), his wife Zulekha was a old lady, and Prophet Josuf was a Young Boy.If you're a Muslim than I can't give you a better information, When Our Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) was married with BiBi Khatihaj (A.S) he was 25 and his wife was over 40.And in Paradise! we all the human will be 33 years old.So if you wanna get marry with him, it's alright but if you just wanna sex or live with him without the marriage, then this is wrong Babe! Thank You
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reader, loveproblem  +, writes (21 December 2008):
I am not a lady. But would like to answer.There is nothing wrong or right in Love. Your action now, if proved wrong later does not really matter. There will always be "I told you so" kind of characters. Ignore them. Love is a beutiful thing. The happiness as well as the sad part of it. One must experience it as it comes. Too much of thinking what will happen in the future really spoils the present. Analysis paralysis as I call it. Listen to your heart. Just plan for certain financial and social issues and have a tentative game plan about the future. You need to be flexible. Remember only certain thing about the future is its uncertainity. So go ahead.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2008):
 This question can be answered as whether sex with a younger man would be wrong, in itself, or whether "a relationship with a younger man" would be wrong. Or, the way pvtguy answered, and which I make mine: is it CONVENIENT for two people with a very big age gap to be together? We tend to believe that "love conquers all", but that's not true.
The women are answering as if someone were trying to prevent the poster from having sex with anyone she wants. I don't think pvtguy suggested that, but he can speak for himself. I will speak for myself: that is not what I meant. Let's see the future without a crystal ball: How easy would it be for a 55 year old woman to keep a 36 year old man by her side?
So far, there is no sex, which is to say there is no "relationship" as we should understand the term. There's perhaps attraction and flirting, but no real relationship. The poster is doing something very sensible: looking before she leaps. What changes will the sex bring? What can she expect from him? More important, what does HE expect from her?
If this will be just fun, let the poster go ahead! I just would like her to make sure everyone knows it's only about fun. We don't want dramas a la Mexican soap operas. And, if both parties are sure they want to go ahead and make it serious, ALL RIGHT! I'm just recommending the poster to keep her eyes open. I would tell the same to a man who got involved with a girl who were nineteen years younger.
What if the poster only wants sex but the guy suddenly discovers that the sex is wonderful, er, he's in love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Well, I am 38, my fiance is 24.
Listen, baby.
No matter what kind of a man you choose, you'll get good and bad things together. No matter is he your age or 20 years older/younger, nothing can guarantee you happiness or unhappiness. Or will that relation last.
We have a boy, and that young man is acting more responsible towards that than may others I met (my friend's husbands).
He is here for us, trying the best he can. It sometimes isn't much, but I respect him.
I don't have something that older man would give. Experience, stability... But I do have something else. A good person. And I'm happy for every day we spend together.
Who knows. We may still be together in few years - more than some "same-age" couples.
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reader, doesntunderstand  +, writes (19 December 2008):
This is comming from a younger woman. It really depends on how old he is...if he is under 23 then it's probably not a good idea...you will just confuse him, give him the best sex ever, and he will fall for you and follow you around for the rest of your existence...if this is something that you want then go for it. Age really isn't that big of a deal as long as it isn't illegal and he isn't still living with his parents...
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reader, jakesmom +, writes (19 December 2008):
Well I see nothing wrong with it at all! Just keep in mind when sex is involved feelings tend to as well. And he is way to young to want to settle down!!
But go ahead I am 38 and the guy I am sleeping with is 23!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): This is the first time in my 2 months at DC where a lady just wants to have sex with out any analysis.Let her have fun!!
Though its not my cup of tea,its high time that the tables are turned.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (19 December 2008):
I'm with pvtguy. You need to know what you expect from this relationship, and, also, what HE expects from it.
I can only congratulate him on his looking into the future, too. What seems fine today might not be fine tomorrow.
If you agree on what you want, what can be the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): 19 goes more times inside 40 than a 40 would go in 19.Mathematically of course.
Have fun!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 December 2008):
 If everybody's "up" for it then I say go for it. I've never had a relationship with a younger man but then I ain't dead yet.....
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reader, ilovemb +, writes (19 December 2008):
 well.....depends if hes comfortable with it....if he is then go get sum!
gd luk and hav fun
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reader, flower girl +, writes (19 December 2008):
 My thoughts are, why not if you are sexually attracted to each other and its legal then go for it the age thing is only an issue if you make it one.
Take care xx
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