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*kalamanga
writes:Im a 20 year old guy who has never had sex/date/or gf. i consider myself pretty decent-looking and have confidence. i talked to a couple of girls from high school that were just friends but the biggest problem i have is my lack of experience in 'taking the next step.' iv never had any 'intimate' relationship with a girl and i wouldnt even know what to do. if she expected me to make the first move, i probably wouldnt do it. being myself, im probably just worrying too much. i guess my biggest question is, 'does experience really matter?' or should i just tell her how i feel hoping she wont think im a loser? im just afraid she wont want a guy who doesnt know what hes doing or has never even been on a date. iv had this on my mind for like 5 years and its keeping me from meeting anyone. any input would be great. thnx.
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (31 January 2010):
hi if you meet a nice girl then she will not mind that you no experience infact she will be pleased that you have not had loads of girls and she will teach you everything you need to know and take the lead with sex you just got to find the right girl its nothing to worry about just be patient
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Just talk to girls. Don't seek anything from them. Prolong the eye contact a bit longer than usual. Just talk to girls. Sit back and relax. Let them become interested. Just talk to girls :)
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reader, Burns231 +, writes (31 January 2010):
I know exactly where you are coming from with this. I am 22 and never had sex and only one gf that dumped me over the phone. Unfortunately (and I am coming to realize this now) is that sometime you just have to go out on a limb. Not necessarily kiss her on the first date but if it goes well then just try to get a hug when you split ways for the evening. Also say that you had a good time (if in fact you really did) and you would like to go out again and see what she says to that. I am terrible with taking the initiative and taking the first step because I am too nervous to do so. But the thing I keep telling myself is this: the worst thing that can happen is she isn't ready for that and does not want to. Unfortunately she may get weirded out but there are several others out there and thats what dating is for: seeing what you like and dont like. Good luck with anything and if you need anything just message me :)
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