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writes:I did something I feel really awful about but I don't know if this makes me a bad person or what I should think. I got pretty drunk with my friends and this guy was hitting on me and started kissing on me. I was really uncomfortable and I felt really awkward. I kinda shrugged away from him. I feel really bad because I have a boyfriend that we have been off and on for two years. I only kissed the guy for a minute and I didn't go out of my way to do it. But I didn't stop him either until that minute was over I was like f*ck it and ran away. I don't want to become some shi*bag because I'm letting some guy kiss on me when my inhibitions are weakened. I also know if I told my boyfriend he probably overreact and dump me. I don't know if this makes me a cheater or what. I just feel really awful and I know I want to be a straight up honest and commited person after all this. It wasn't like I went out of my way to kiss a guy but that one minute I feel soo stupid for not telling him to f*ck off. Do you think god will send me to hell for this sh*t because I feel like a bag of sh*t right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): hi there, well tbh if your bf loves you he should give you a second chance, its not like you was planning on doing it! but if i was you i know its hard but i really wouldn't mention anything as this could ruin your relationship. but if you think he is a forgiving type im sure everything will be fine..
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (28 March 2011):
If your boyfriend dumps you after this he won't be overreacting, just reacting to what you did.
Yes, kissing another guy when you have a boyfriend is cheating. Even if you were drunk. Because you don't get drunk at a party with guys if you have a boyfriend out there.
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reader, BasherB  +, writes (28 March 2011):
Hi mate,
If it happened as you said, i.e he jumped at you rather than you leading him on then I don't see the problem... I understand that you might feel guilty or even dirty about what happened.
I'd speak to your BF and explained how when and why it happened, tell him you regret it and that you want to put it behind you. It'd be interesting to see if you get any sort of adverse reaction from him!
good luck!
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (28 March 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,Wooow I think you should tell your boyfriend because honestly is the best policy and it will keep your conscience clean.Even if it cost you your relationship remember that you can ask for second chances... and he wouldn't dump you unless your really honest and say it was a mistake and that you won't do it again because you're drunk during the time and you did walk away. If you do tell your boyfriend don't be all upset if he doesn't talk to you just give him some space so that he just forget his worries and than about a day or two try and call him.Remember honey if your boyfriend flips out tell him that everyone makes mistakes and it's not a crime to make them but it's about learning them and I can see that your extremely sorry and he will definitely see that!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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reader, Amdz +, writes (28 March 2011):
 It doesn't sound to me that you have positive feelings about your current relationship. I personally think that if you have such strong feelings of distrust that your boyfriend would not "understand" you, your feelings, and the circumstance you got yourself out of, then your relationship with him is not really a relationship worth staying in. Your partner should be someone that compliments your life and that you trust with your most intimate self. If you don't see your relationship heading in that direction, I don't see the point. You make him sound more like a burden, than someone that compliments you and your life. You don't deserve to feel so awful about yourself for a mistake that you made. One thing is feeling regret and guilt, and having a hard time facing that you have betrayed someone, but another is when you start to feel worthless b/c of your weaknesses...You seemed to struggle with finding the strength to do the right thing in this situation, and the point is that you worked hard to do the right thing...You're human. Learn about yourself from this experience, but don't feel that you are worthless. Learn about your weaknesses, and vow to face them and do things differently in the future...Best to you...
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