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Karma. is it a real thing?

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Question - (17 December 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 December 2016)
A male United States age , anonymous writes:

Ladies, a question about carma, when you let someone else, get your life all screwed up, you know, treat them fantastic , thought you were doing everything just right, never argue, fight just alot of good times, but you actually didn't see the red flags, you let your heart do all the thinking,do you think the same thing in time will happen to them, its happened to me two time, in the past ten years, i know it was my fault, i thought we were thinking the same way, is there really carma

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2016):

In my own opinion, Karma is 50-50, really. Cause, our life is kept on circling. There are times that people will experience of what you have ecperience right now. We live in only 1 world but living in different countries.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2016):

Stuff does come back to bite them in the butt, although its nothing to do with you.

You may love someone and it not be a time in their lives where they can reciprocate!

Undoubtably the same will happen to them, because its only a glimpse of the possibilities that would await you if you were both in a current relationship.

But sometimes it is karma that says no and these situations can leave feelings long past their natural shelf life.

If you loved someone and it was one way and they cheated on you then yes, this will always haunt them because they know how easy it is to cheat and lie.

At least if you have given your best you know you are a decent person, one who is at a level many aspire to but cannot reach!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (17 December 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI do think that WHAT you put "out there" and "invest in" other people comes back to you. Both the NEGATIVE and the POSITIVE.

And I like the expression that "Karma will get them" - however, most of us Westerners use the word wrong. Karma is actually not for THIS life, but for the next. What you did right and wrong in THIS life will determine your NEXT life. So it's related to whether you believe in reincarnation and well, patience.

From your example, I think you ar making the presumption that you are somehow OWED something or ENTITLED to something because you DO XYZ. That is rarely how it works.

Thinking you are doing "everything right" is YOUR personal view, the women in question may not have agreed. They may NOT have felt a deeper connection or a spark/chemistry and thus it didn't work out.

Your post is rather vague so all I could do was make a guess. So here goes:

You met a woman you wooed her and it's didn't end as you had hoped or planned. IS that your "fault"? I don't think so, maybe you relied a little too much on "guesswork" and less on open and honest communication, maybe you jumped in with both feet WAY to early and THAT made them back off....

All you can REALLY do is try again. TRY a different approach. Go slow. And if you let your "heart" do all the thinking, well next time USE your brain.

Unless both parties WANT it to work, it's not GOING to work. Willpower alone can't do it.

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