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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm turning into this obsessively jealous (of other's engagements and weddings) kind of person since I got married recently after dating for 8 years, 5 of which we cohabitated. Everything seemed situational.If it weren't for my expensive meds and medical condition, or the fact that I needed to go to school close to where he lived, I doubt he would have asked or moved in. The choice to expedite the marriage came as a result a growing lump in my jaw that had to be taken care of right away. We wed in a courthouse on a weeknight in a 10 minute ceremony so I could be seen by a doc ASAP. Since then, I turned into this jealous person regarding weddings. It seems to sting the most when its of family members. When I ran into my brother in law and his gf of just 3 years shopping for a ring, I felt terrible the whole day conjuring up images of her getting a romantic surprise proposal one day with her ring. The It took hubby 8 years to even ask "honey I can put you on my insurance plan if we get married and that way you can see a doc. Wanna get married?I should get you a ring some time then. OK, good night".I guess it's the little girl within me wanting some romantic proposal and the intimate and sweet ceremony in a wedding gown. I'm not looking for anything expensive... just that extended sweet moment of exchanging vows, and that darn moment to be happily teary after his proposal which are gone for good and something I can experience once in a lifetime. I keep hearing too much of romantic proposals at a nice restaurant. the gown. the full works. blah blah. I'm obsessed with it for a wierd reason. Why should I care when I have this loving husband and we're married? I don't even know if I could discuss this with my now hubby without sounding so selfish/psychotic. I continue to frequent wedding boards.. as if I'm some high school kid still looking for prom dresses and I'm 33. I want to stop feeling so bad. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): Go for it! Sounds like a great anniversary plan!
Tell you husband, we men will go to great lengths to make our women happy!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 November 2010):
 Why don't you renew your vows on your one year anniversary and have the wedding you want?
I didn't have the wedding of my dreams, in fact it was really tiny..and we had a reception at a nice Italian restaurant. We decided we'd renew our vows when he came home from his deployment..but now I'm more concerned about a really nice honeymoon.
Anyways, why not ask him what he thinks..start saving now for your dress, the reception, caterer, etc. Tell him you want the wedding you have always dreamed of ever since you were a little girl.
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