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writes: I'm 20 and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now and Everything's been wonderful up until this point. I've been very confused lately on if I still love him or not and it's killing me inside. I used to be so happy with him, and now I feel like I just woke up one morning and lost my interest in him. This is devestating to me and I can't place why I've so suddenly felt this way. He's my very first relationship, and Ive often wondered if we would last and the though of us breaking up was terrible. It still is but now I feel like I might have to. He says he loves me, and I know leaving him would break his heart and I don't want to leave him myself, but I feel like I may have to. I'm so confused and upset. This is killing me. ;_; Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): Hey guys am i so glad to know im not the only one out there who feels like this my bf is the best in the world he treats me nice would do anything for me too. At the start of the relationship it was like butterflys in my stomach when i saw him and like you to one morning i woke up and just felt different. I know i would die if i broke it off i love having him around but i would rather get into my jammies and read a good book than have sex with him. But if i ever see a goodlooking guy in the street i would wonder how good he was in bed. I still really luv my bf though. so any advice would be great or even to her how u got on urself. thanx x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Awww, I'm so sad for you. And your boyfriend.
Maybe what you need is a break. Just take a little mini-vacation (a cheap hotel in another town. The further away the better)... do you enjoy being single a little? Does it feel better having a life without him?
It's a good way to double check your thoughts. Maybe you'll go away and realize that you've just been spending too much time together or that you haven't gone out on enough dates lately and it's getting boring....
Or maybe you'll realize that you do enjoy being by yourself again. That is is time to get back out on the playing field and find someone else.
If you're meant to be together, some time apart won't hold that back. Maybe after you take a few months you'll be ready to start a relationship with him again. Who knows? It'll be better for both of you, however, if you don't force the relationship to happen.
xxIndia
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reader, TornUp +, writes (1 December 2006):
I'm SO sorry. It's killing me too. It's scary how your situation is the exact same as mine. I can't put my finger on when it was exactly that, like you said, I just woke up one morning and didn't know if loved him anymore. It really does feel like it's killing you, doesn't it? I know my guy is the best thing out there...but for some reason that isn't enough for me anymore. He's become my best friend, and the relationship/boyfriend aspect has been lost. Which makes the physical part of the relationship feel so wrong.
I have talked to him about it, and it's hard because nothing has changed for him. He feels the same as he always did. I know he's amazing, but my heart just isn't in it anymore. I guess I really don't have much advice to you, just maybe letting you know you're not alone in this might help. I know it helped me, seeing your post, to know that this is a natural situation not unique to myself. Please let me know what you end up doing with this, as I need some guidance myself...and I'll try to update you as well as I make progress in this nasty situation. I'm trying SO hard not to give up on my relationship, but like you said, it's killing me staying and it'll kill me to leave (but it feels like I have to as well). I'm so sorry again, and I truly hope that you guys (and me and my bf)can work through this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): i no exactly how you feel. until yesterday iv felt the xact same. ive posted many cries for help on here before as well. this thing was eating me inside becoz e was stil so certain that we can b together and didnt want me to go. nothing seemed to help me. i didnt like anything about him. he was just a person reli. bt, i dont no wot happend.. last nyt i was talking about this sort of thing with a friend who was also having this issue and as i started telln him everything, i began to feel more attached to him agen. being honest im not 100% interested agen ryt nw. bt i have hope that i no it wil b betr. (i will see him tomoro and il no how i feel) its just like a phase. he is my first and weve been together a year and almost 2 months. my friend has also been dating for a year n a few months. i can tell you, u will get over this. dont give up. wotever u do dont give up on it. u myt feel like u need to, that u dont love him, but u will regret it. i was luky my bf had supported me thru it. i told him how i felt. what ever u do. please dont leave him. keep thinking about how good a bf he is to u. y u loved him. what made ur relationship special. for e.g we have nuthing in common apart from our love. bt he is very supportive and loving, he wud do anything for me. i love the way i fit perfectly in his arms and tho im small to everyone else, im the perfect height for him to hug me n put his chin on my head. he accepts me for what i am. just find the good things. always think, in the end it wil b worth it.
reply back here if u can, id like to no how it goes as well.
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