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anonymous
writes:I've had sex with my teacher last week and I don't know what to do. I can't look him in the eyes any more, I feel ashamed and bad. Can somebody give me an advice what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Definitely tell some one and remember It is not your fault. We all make mistakes but in situations like this where the older party should have known better it is their fault. You have absolutely nothing to feel ashamed about. Please tell your parents, let them know. Take a pregnancy test. Im serious about telling your parents because in the end just hiding it makes it worse when it all comes to a head.And please be careful around this teacher, he might use this to try to take advantage of you
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 if you were unwilling, it's rape. i hope you contacted the police.
can you call your uncle???
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (28 July 2009):
Why did you have sex with your teacher;;; how old is he? What influenced this decision. You are 16/17 years old so not that young - were you a virgin? Are you attracted to this teacher;; how long have you been (if so). Were you pressured, were you raped?
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reader, Main Man +, writes (5 June 2009):
 I don't know the age of cosent in France. You need to tell someone if you were forced into having sex with your teacher. It also might best you take a pregnancy test just in case you have become pregnant with your teacher child. Remember to talk to someone like either your parents, the police, a member of staff at your schoool or an other relative.
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reader, MusicalMistress +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Oh my god. You should tell someone like your parents. Was this forced on you, or did you just do it? Your teacher should have known better. But, yea, tell an adult. I'm Praying for you!! Taylor
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reader, wiseacre +, writes (5 March 2009):
Your school probably has a guidance counselor. If you have no other adults, make an appointment to talk to him/her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Stay away. Also if this was forced tell a parent, teacher, police. If you where ok with it, he should of known better being an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): DON'T DO IT AGAIN!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Tell someone who knowsyou
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Tell a responsable adult (your parents, teacher, police)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): it's not your fault your teacher either shouldn't have encouraged you or shouldn't have pushed you. Speak to someone, whether it's your mum, police or headteacher
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This doesn't sound good and you are not in the wrong, it depends on the circumstances to what to do, was it forceful or was he nice about it, are you in love or what? Either way you should still tell someone as doing this in your job is not allowed, as this shows that your teacher is not a very good example of a role-model, teachers are supposed to be role-models and make all people try to be interested in studying and work not sex!
hope this helps:) x
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reader, karldlewis +, writes (16 February 2009):
You really must tell someone because you don't know how many other students he has had sex with- maybe more forcively or violently and how can you ever be taught by him again. Anouther teacher would be a good person to speak to and remember I bet even your Dad would be sympathetic to the situation you are in and don't forget its not your fault.
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reader, audie  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 your teacher is the adult in this situation and should have known better. he should have avoided such a situation. did u have a crush on him to begin with. you are still very young and controlled by hormones. talk to an adult about this coz i dont think he acted appropriately therfore there should be consequences. he took advantage of u love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Well... how do i explain that? At the beginning i wasnt willing, later i wanted it too.
and there is no one i could contact, my mother is dead, my father would turn crazy and my uncle lives 200miles away.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (16 February 2009):
 You should not feel ashamed or guilty. Your Teacher should have known better.
Did you do this willingly? or was it forced upon you?
There is a great deal of difference, because if you were willing although he would probably still get struck off, its a lot different from being a rapist.
Is there an adult you could confide in, maybe another teacher that you get on well with, or a family member that you can trust not to hit the roof before they know all the facts.
He really shouldnt have crossed that line, its extremly unprofessional.
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