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writes:I have what may or may not be a fairly common question, but I am rather lost regardless. I am a rather geeky guy, I am good at math/physics, but am extremely bad when it comes to talking to others. In terms of friends, I do not have many, but am confident that I can rely on any of them. The problem with this is that I have feelings for one of the girls that I am friends with. I have known her for a long time, and we have always gotten along. The problem is that she is one of maybe four or so people in my school that I can comfortably talk to. I am nervous that if I try to strike up a relationship with her, she will reject me and the awkwardness that comes with that will end our friendship.A few notes on how I know her:-Met in grade 9 (currently 12)-Had 1 date in grade 9, didn't continue, but stayed friends anyway, after several months of awkwardness.-Lately we have been spending more time together - movies, dinner etc. but only as friends, with no romance involved.-I asked her to prom (which is soon), but it is uncertain precisely how she perceived my invitation. She agreed immediately, however.-I have heard rumors that she had a crush on me sometime in the recent past, but do not know if they were true and if so, whether she has gotten over it by now.-The reason that I am somewhat skeptical about these rumors is that I see nothing to which she could possibly be attracted in me. She is smarter in everything but math and physics, she has a better sense of humor, and is generally a more interesting person.Ultimately my question is this: should I try to pursue a relationship with her even at the possible expense of losing her as one of my few friends?Thank you,amazurenko
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): She probably wants you.
Don't try to understand it because you'll just talk yourself out of believing it, and/or you'll be thinking less of her for liking you.
Don't get caught up in what you think you should do about it, just be yourself. This sounds so stupid but it's true.
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reader, Aly Jane + ♥, writes (6 May 2008):
 Before you said you were in 12th grade, I thought you were one of my friends!! You sound exactly like him! You don't have a lot of self confidence and underestimate yourself. She might have felt shy as well as awkward and thought she should back off. Don't write her off because she seems to be a better person than you. After all, she is your prom date and a close friend. Take a shot at this because it'll be better to try and lose than watch and snooze! (That was terribly corny, lol.)
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