A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:If you're dating a guy, you get along great and there's obviously a lot of sexual tension between you. How long should you wait before you get intimate...would 2 to 3 weeks be too early? or do you think you should wait longer? Reply to this Question |
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female
reader, Waterloo Sunset + ♥, writes (1 November 2007):
 It depends on the individual. We waited 6 weeks and made it very special by going away for the weekend. It was fabulous. Enjoy!
take care
xx
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male
reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (1 November 2007):
 Personally I waited for a month before my partner and I got it on. We both wanted to become friends first, there was a connection instantly between us and as both of us were hardly virginal neither wanted to spoil it by shagging the hell out of each other from the get go.
But it wasn't a case of "oh its been a month we should start shagging now" it just felt like the right time and we went for it.
So I would say dont put any limit on it, do it when it feels right, if he starts pressuring you and it becomes a little uncomfortable, then you should re-assess what his priorities are and whether you belong together.
good luck!
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male
reader, dapone 1 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Hello.
there is no time limit for this question, provided you both now what you are letting your selfs in for, and for example make sure this is not only a one night stand, or he is not married,and make sure he is not just using you for sex,if the answer is no, then i would go for it, why wait.
Good luck
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male
reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hi. I guess I know why you are asking, but I can't give you a specific duration. I can only suggest how to go about deciding:
What is your concern if you leave intimacy too long? What effect would it have?
What is your concern if you start intimacy too soon? What effec would it have?
Do you (or he) have any cultural or religious or moral constraints?
Maybe the number of "dates" is a better way of looking at it rather than number of weeks.
I read one woman's advice to a previous similar question which went (paraphrased)....."if I don't see him as a long term prospect I'll go to bed with him after a month. If I think he's a potential husband I will leave it for six months."
Hope this helps???
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