A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 16 and quite a shy boy, I always have been and have a very close knit group of friends.I also attend singing lessons and have done for close to 5 years now, and over the years I've built a strong friendship with my teacher who is female but fairly older then I am (Shes 52).I trust her and always have, and I normally go to her if I want to get anything off my chest. I feel as though sometimes there are some issues I cannot discuss with my parents.As I mentioned, she is 52 but good looking for her age. She has a really nice mature body and I have realised over the past year or two, I've fallen for her.I've discussed an issue with her where I said I like older women, and she said if I wanted to tell her anything that I could. She also mentioned once that "She would date me if she was my age".Today, during my lesson, I was recording outside the room and had to walk past her as I came back in (somebody else was also in the room at the time so it was harder to get past). Anyway, so my singing teacher goes: "Sit down and let me see your beautiful face." Which, in all honesty, kinda shocked me.I want to tell her that I really like her, but I feel as though I cant. (Shes married to a sofa salesman) and the more I try to get her out my head, the more I seem to get paranoid and fall in love with her.Can somebody please help me and tell me what I can do. I really love her, but I feel as though I shouldnt tell her because of her marriage and how it might effect our friendship.
View related questions:
my teacher, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): She said it all when she said about the age difference. She probably feels like a mother to you and wants to encourage you to think more of yourself, which any good teacher would do.
She is way too old for you. You are just growing up. Find someone your own age.
Your feelings will fade eventually. Lots of young people go through a phase like this.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): I had a tremendous crush on my English teacher in my sophomore year, Anon. She was a lot younger than your crush...she was in her thirties...also married. I am sure she knew, but I also knew I could never be more than a worhipper from afar. I could also talk with her about many things. She was a doll and very sharp. But, I never gave her a reason to be uncomfortable around me. As I said, I had common sense. She is now in her sixties and I still visit her now and then. She is a very dear friend. Sort of like one of my aunts. It is fine to admire older women. They give us the ideal of what kind of woman we want to have as a mate and friend when we are grown. But, leave it at that, anon.
...............................
A
female
reader, petina1 +, writes (6 December 2008):
 Be strong and resist these feelings. I know I won't make much sense to you at the moment but you are of an age where hormones are running high. I'ts something that a lot of young men go through at your time of life where they fall in love with an older woman.
Your teacher will never take this any further. She is married, she will also lose her job. You wouldnt want her to lose her job would you? I'ts a serious thing is a teacher/tutor relationship. Can you confide your feelings with anyone at school , a mentor or someone who is there to help pupils with their concerns. Your teacher probably has a lot of respect and admiration for you because you are talented and you sing. Anyone with a talent is much admired and thats all it is , she is proud of that.
You must keep your feelings to yourself and be strong and work your way through them. Trust me, it will be best in the long term to ride this out. Try to fill y our spare time with other things and friendships and tell your self how silly you would look, walking down the street with a woman 3 times your age on your arm. Everyone will think she is your mother. Imagine if you were with her in 20 years time,, she will be 72 and you will be only 36. Sorry for being like this, but I hope you see what others will see. hope this helps.
...............................
|
