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I've fallen hard but there are obstacles to a potential relationship. Should I tell him how I feel?

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Question - (16 March 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 March 2014)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, *parklesTheVampire writes:

Dear Cupid,

I am a gay guy of 17 and have never really had good luck with guys. About a month ago I began talking to a gay through a dating app, we'd both recently just gotten out of a relationship. Everyday since we first spoke we've messaged everyday, even exchanging numbers and eventually we've met a few times.

It's safe to say that I've fallen hard for this guy... There a few problems though: He's 21 and is a bit put off by the age gap and says that nothing would happen till I was 18, I'm fine with that and I am willing to wait.

The next problem is he was seeing his ex for two and a half years, and doesn't feel ready to move into another relationship.

The third and final problem is that we agreed to just being friends, and he doesn't know that I've developed romantic feelings for him. He flirts and even has a pet name for me, he was the one that arranged the times we've met and I keep getting mixed signals from him.

What should I do? Should I tell him how I feel and risk ruining our friendship or do I face defeat and try to move on, possibly missing out on a chance for us to be happy together?

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A female reader, brock24 United States +, writes (16 March 2014):

brock24 agony auntI know its scary,but you should tell him how you feel if you don't you will never know how he feels. He may not be ready for a relstionship now but who knows maybe in time he will be. Have a heart to heart with him its the only way you will ever know how he feels. :)

Good luck!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2014):

He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, you need to protect your emotions here.

Tell him how you feel but be prepared to get an answer you don't like, he's giving unusual signals and could just be playing with your heart, whether he knows it or not, he's not doing any good.

After that, I'd advise moving on, keep him as a friend maybe, but find someone else because he doesn't sound overly serious. Sorry.

Good luck

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