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writes: Dear Cupid,Last Wednesday, I made the decision to accept the fact that my crush just wants to be friends and nothing more with me (in other words, I finally decided to let him go after nearly two years of constant pining over him). Well, on Thursday, I wrote him a letter telling him my decision and then asked him two questions that I've been wanting to know the answer to for about two years (they were, "What happened between us?" because he used to flirt with me all the time, and then he just changed out of the blue and, "Why can't we ever be together?") and got my friend to give it to him. I told him he didn't have to respond if he didn't want to, but said that I hoped he decided to because I really need to know the answer. Well, it's been about a week, and he hasn't responded. I really, really need to know his answers, but I don't want to push him. What should I do?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 He just wasn't into you the way you were into him, let it go.
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reader, lboy +, writes (13 October 2006):
 hi reader, i really don't think that you should worry about this all that much, you did tell him in your letter that he did not have to answer to your letter. he may just be finding it difficult to answer to your questions. so don't worry, just give himsome more time to reply, O.K then tell us how it went.good lucklboyxxx
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reader, steemo +, writes (13 October 2006):
 just let him go you dont want to let yourself look silly i no it hurts pride but hay we carnt always have wat we want
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reader, steemo +, writes (13 October 2006):
just let him go you dont want to let yourself look silly i no it hurts pride but hay we carnt always have wat we want
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 October 2006):
 Let IT GO...
honey you gave him an out...you told him he didn't have to answer...but you have been waiting all week and that answer is not going to come except with time and wisdom.
Let me give it a shot.
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What happened between us?
I Do like you and everything but I just don't want to go out with you. It is not you...i think you are a really nice person but all that happened between us was that nothing happened. I am sorry but it just is not what I want. You are pretty and smart and funny and I like just staying friends.
Why cant we ever be together?
That is hard to answer..I don't know the future. I kind of feel trapped around you because you follow me around and stuff and I do know how you feel. See I have tried being nice...and being not so nice sometimes and I like you but just feel overwhelmed sometimes. Who knows what will happen in 10 years...I have not closed that door..but I don't want the responsibility of you waiting around for me. We are Kids. We should have a million crushes and you only seem to have me. And I have other ones and you look at me all hurt...then i feel horrible so i do something to make you mad and Then I should feel horrible and i just feel relieved cause you stay away for a couple of days and let me breath.
You are so nice...but i just feel sort of like your my sister sometimes....like you expect me to be different and I just can't. So thanks for letting this go and who knows what is down the road. Maybe next year you will have some guy chasing you and it will make me all jealous...just understand that if the chemistry is not there...I can't help that. i did not make it go away to be mean and you did nothing wrong....Don't keep asking me stuff like this....I hate trying to figure this stuff out. I don't know why things are this way...they just are.
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there...now you can move on. And not wait any longer for Him to grow up and give you closure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): Its a friendship that never really got off the ground to begin with. Evidently, he had already let it go a long time before you wrote to him.
He might still respond to your letter. If he does not, there is nothing more you can do. Are you absolutely certain your friend passed the letter on to him? No reason why she wouldn't have....
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