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writes:About 2 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up.Though, he wasn't just my boyfriend, we've been best friends for the past year. We only dated about 2 months and I've loved him for quite some time before that. He said he loved our other best friend and me, just he loved her more. but while we dated, I thought his love for me was growing. but now they're sorta together and I'm trying to be okay with it, but I'm still not over him and they both talk to me about each other all the time and each time it kills me a little more.any idea what i should do?I really want them to tell me what happens and how they feel, but I can't stand hurting this much anymore.
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reader, Romani +, writes (3 August 2010):
This situation sounds a bittwisted . why would you date a guy who says he is in love with 2 girls? ( even if 1 was u) that is a huge sign of emotional immaturity - so if your feelings were pure for him - you should have held off to avoid hurting yourself- but what's done is done- just don't get urself into a similar situation again. You should distance yourself from them. gain yourself back! try going on dates with other guys. Good luck !
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reader, M€9@/\/ +, writes (3 August 2010):
I don't know if your religious or anything but if you are then just remember that god has created sobody just for you!!! The only hard part is finding him. If you think he is the one, then tell him how you feel, if he is the one things will go your way. But if you just really like him then just move on and keep looking for that special Simone god has in store for you!! That sombody that you more than "just like"
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): You're still young and pure. He's not worth your time thinking about him. Move in. Someone better, somewhere, needs you, and you need him too, but you can't see it yet. Move the heck on.
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reader, BlondeBabe x  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 What you have to do is take a step back to just clear your head. Your heart is longing for the guy you can't have and these two are doing anything to make it any better.
Personally what I would do is take a short break away somewhere just to be at peace for a little while and to think, even just take a day to think this through.
But remember this guy was never for you, he told you from the start he felt for your friend so in the end it could never have worked for him while he longed for someone else.
You have to tell them, these people are people that are closed to you, best friends are like family in a sense. Tell them simply that right now you are finding it difficult and not to confide in you so much. You don't have to go into all the detail about how much it hurts you if you feel it will hurt them to much. But for your sake put yourself first and stop yourself from hurting. There is someone out there that is perfect for you, he just wasn't the one.
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