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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Need some advice from bros/sis, this might be a little lengthy.I know that she have other suitors, and i know its common thing for girls.. :(:(Her short background:[SPOILER]Shes Malaysian and divorced beforehave a kid around 5/6 years old in malaysiaWorking as beer girl at coffeeshop and always end around 1130pm - 12amgoes back hometown twice or 3 times per month for her child during her off[/SPOILER]I been chasing her for more then 6months now, can't really remember the exact date i started to have more then just simple crush on her.At start, i met her in a pub; she previously worked in as a cashier.She always been rejecting my invitation for supper(after her work) or even lunch(before her work) during the start.I did some mistakes like texting telling her I liked her, was rejected by her previously telling me she treat me as friend and she have no intention of going into relationship currently.that didn't stop me from chasing her and i still continue interacting with her hoping that she would at least give me a chance even after being rejected 3 months pass and she switch job, i managed to actually ask her out 3 times full day, once with her friends, another two time was going shopping with her and simple dinner and movie before dropping her home on cab.p.s. i noticed that she mention she stays at "blk xxx" but notice that she did not actually go to the blk she said when the cab left.There was once she text me when she was back in her hometown telling me she was worried sick that shes noticed her dropping hair, and saying shes afraid to tell anyone even her family members. But of cause i dare not say that i'm the only one she told to.Before her birthday told her i wanted to celebrate her birthday with her after her work, but was rejected saying there isn't any need to celebrate her birthday.Try my luck on the night of her birthday, and she actually agreed to meet up for just plain supper before sending her home. Even through its just plain supper, i really felt happy.Not sure if i did the right thing as some bro did mention that showering gift isn't a good idea.But as i thought it was her birthday, so i brought her a necklace and bracelet which cost me a bomb, and not sure if its due to it being expensive or she did appreciated my thoughts. (I know bro here gonna scold me for buying expensive stuff which cost 1k for a girl whose not even my girlfriend yet).. she did say she wanna pay me for the bracelet as she don't want owe me too muchp.s i'm not rich and merely earning just nice for myself.Till now i'm still the one who start the texting, always trying to find something to talk to with her.I have try calling but usually ends up with no one answering the phone. And she will text me back telling me she just woke up etc.. reasonWent supper with her, while crossing the road, i tried wanting to hold on her hand. But just couldn't get the courage, ended up i put my hand across her shoulder and walked across before letting goshe didn't resist, not sure if thats a ok signI wanna ask bros/sis here, what could i actually do?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 October 2014):
 She has tried for 6 LONG months to let you know she doesn't WANT to date you or go out with you, so maybe you need to ACCEPT that.
And remember you CAN NOT buy love. And expensive bracelet isn't going to change her mind either.
I think you are SERIOUSLY wasting your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2014): Please stop stalking this poor woman.
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