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writes:Hi, recently i've been feeling really jealous and not trusting towards my boyfriend, the reason being is he has a friend who is a girl, and i don't know her, and a few of my friends have told me they spend a lot of time together when im not around, and she has a huge crush on him. He hasnt introduced me to her, so im having trouble trusting him. Ive talked to him about it abit, but he shrugs it off and says im just being weird. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): Ask to meet her. If they are such good friends who see each other so often - it won't be a problem. If he is reluctant, or tries to control the meeting - then, he is hiding something.Also - there are some men in this world who really like getting attention from more than one girl. They have bad self esteem and use women to boost it. They will never change - and if he is one of those guys - get rid of him!
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reader, abbeymom  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Ahhh once again Shawna gives great advice!I've been married for going on five years now. When I met my husband and as our relationship progressed, there was a particular woman in his life (just a friend) but someone he'd been intimate in the past with whom I didn't like.I've never been one to become jealous. I think it's a wasted emotion. Mind you I never loved anyone like I do DH (dear hubby).One day he got a card from this woman who now bear in mind he had this friendship with for nine years before me, and she was married. The card said "wish you were here." and a few other things. It was sent while she was on her honeymoon!Trust your instincts girl. I told DH give her up or give me up I'm not comfortable with the relationship. It makes me angry. Upsets me. Causes mistrust and a few other emotions.Well he ended it right away. He told the woman not to call, or write, or email. He clearly stated he wanted to concentrate on moving on with his life.Now that's a real man! Someone willing to give anything for you as you would him.Again trust your instincts because if he's shrugging it off there's prolly something he's not saying. If it was no big deal to him he'd cut her loose and be with you and only you and not spend time with some other girl while you aren't around.Give him the choice or the curb!Good luck!~ Abbeymom
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 yikes. i was in your shoes just a couple days ago!
i told my guy that either he needs to back off of his girlies or i was going to back off of him. he thought it was unfair and chose the girls, so i kicked him out of my life!
sometimes you need to forget about emotions and remember what you deserve. and since he was stupid enough to let me walk away, i'm going to be smart enough to date the next boy in line!
i obviously can't give objective advice, but maybe you can draw something from my experience! haha good luck.
if you need someone to talk to, you know how to reach me!
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